Has anyone lost respect for men because of their experiences with relationships and dating?
Has anyone lost respect for men because of their experiences with relationships and dating?
Just lately I have kind of lost a bit of respect for the male race as whole or maybe I have discarded my fairy tale out look on love and life and I am seeing the differences between men and woman as they are and need to accepted and change accordingly.
Since becoming acquainted with the traits of PD's I have set up healthy boundaries or at least I hope I have, you never know with these crafty buggers lol.
In honesty I don't know if it was because I had become au fait with their shenanigans through knowledge of reading about N's and having light bulb moments OR if it came with age and experience and a stand not to put up with shite anymore OR I always knew to a degree and have worked on myself and self~esteem and become comfortable in my own bones. Because I could and can always see it when it was happening to a friend. It's more then likely all these things put together.
Just lately ever guy I meet or hear about that is in a relationship/dating a friend seems to be selfish. I see it in the guys I date too. They all seem to have this hidden agenda and are honed in on meeting their own needs. Or maybe as women we are naturally caring, nurturing and self~sacrificing and they are just being balanced. Maybe they are just raised by their mothers to be selfish.
I am the widowed mother of two sons, one is 30 the other 18 and I have tried to bring them up to be respectful not just to women but to everybody and not selfish but it just seems to a degree to be ingrained in them. Whatever's best for them. I have spoken to male friends about this and they have all said men will always go where they are safe and best. How true this is I don't know but it certainly rings true with what I have seen and experienced.
It doesn't matter how different you think a man is it seems to me he will always end up by doing things to make himself happy or doing what is best for him. I've seen it a thousand times with myself, friends and family.
My late mother used to say to me when I asked her about it 'If you do what you want to do at least you know one person is happy'. This seems to be the stance men take. I'm not in a position or would want to be that selfish but taking a leaf out of their book and doing a lot more of what I want doesn't seem a bad idea to me. Where guys are concerned staying single, dating and doing what's best for me.
let's take a page from their playbook
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Really good point terri,and
In all honesty I don't feel
Making Himself Happy
Instant Gratification
Planned from the Beginning
The Plan Backfired
Absolutely. For a while I
Yeah, I've lost all respect,
Agreed,
Kitty
If they are scared to take
Has anyone lost respect for men - Scared to take a chance?
Kitty
Women are PD's nearly as often as men I think
Maybe I could introduce the