Has anyone lost respect for men because of their experiences with relationships and dating?

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#1 Oct 29 - 12AM
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Has anyone lost respect for men because of their experiences with relationships and dating?

Just lately I have kind of lost a bit of respect for the male race as whole or maybe I have discarded my fairy tale out look on love and life and I am seeing the differences between men and woman as they are and need to accepted and change accordingly.

Since becoming acquainted with the traits of PD's I have set up healthy boundaries or at least I hope I have, you never know with these crafty buggers lol.

In honesty I don't know if it was because I had become au fait with their shenanigans through knowledge of reading about N's and having light bulb moments OR if it came with age and experience and a stand not to put up with shite anymore OR I always knew to a degree and have worked on myself and self~esteem and become comfortable in my own bones. Because I could and can always see it when it was happening to a friend. It's more then likely all these things put together.

Just lately ever guy I meet or hear about that is in a relationship/dating a friend seems to be selfish. I see it in the guys I date too. They all seem to have this hidden agenda and are honed in on meeting their own needs. Or maybe as women we are naturally caring, nurturing and self~sacrificing and they are just being balanced. Maybe they are just raised by their mothers to be selfish.

I am the widowed mother of two sons, one is 30 the other 18 and I have tried to bring them up to be respectful not just to women but to everybody and not selfish but it just seems to a degree to be ingrained in them. Whatever's best for them. I have spoken to male friends about this and they have all said men will always go where they are safe and best. How true this is I don't know but it certainly rings true with what I have seen and experienced.

It doesn't matter how different you think a man is it seems to me he will always end up by doing things to make himself happy or doing what is best for him. I've seen it a thousand times with myself, friends and family.

My late mother used to say to me when I asked her about it 'If you do what you want to do at least you know one person is happy'. This seems to be the stance men take. I'm not in a position or would want to be that selfish but taking a leaf out of their book and doing a lot more of what I want doesn't seem a bad idea to me. Where guys are concerned staying single, dating and doing what's best for me.

Oct 30 - 7AM
terri
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let's take a page from their playbook

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Nov 3 - 11AM (Reply to #16)
Kitty02 (not verified)
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Really good point terri,and

Oct 30 - 2AM
Kitty02 (not verified)
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In all honesty I don't feel

Oct 29 - 1PM
agnesmurphy17
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Making Himself Happy

Oct 29 - 6AM
Portia
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Instant Gratification

Oct 29 - 1PM (Reply to #11)
agnesmurphy17
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Planned from the Beginning

Oct 29 - 2PM (Reply to #12)
Portia
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The Plan Backfired

Oct 29 - 6AM
Im_always_fine
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Absolutely. For a while I

Oct 29 - 4AM
Walkingonsunshine
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Yeah, I've lost all respect,

Oct 29 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Froglegs
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Agreed,

Oct 29 - 4AM
onwithmylife
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Kitty

Oct 29 - 5AM (Reply to #5)
Lovely1
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If they are scared to take

Oct 29 - 10AM (Reply to #6)
Kim
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Has anyone lost respect for men - Scared to take a chance?

Oct 29 - 4AM
Janie53
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Kitty

Oct 29 - 5AM (Reply to #2)
jackguy
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Women are PD's nearly as often as men I think

Oct 30 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
Kitty02 (not verified)
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Maybe I could introduce the