Don't be fooled, the NARC'S are setting up their "Winter Nests."

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petite7heaven
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Hi so true....
petite7heaven
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Yup Goldie's Right!
Canada
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goldie, you made my day with
Used
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goldie,
CrAzY4trying
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omg just what i needed to read!!!
Deidre99
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lol he brought back a xmas
talktothehand
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Ho ho ho
Dragonlady
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Looking
talktothehand
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No
brokenacc
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This explains it now
Used
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broken
Goldie
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Thanks Used
brokenacc
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Thanks Used
TNR1
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11 months....hoover
Marlinmom
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Zap
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Thx for this post
Deidre99
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Yes, echoing NLB...this is a
Darlene
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Narc time!!! OMG!!!This sooo
neverlookback
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Yes, NLB, Everyday is a Holiday without the Narc
greengirl91
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"Deck the halls with boughs
"Deck the halls with boughs of holly Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la 'Tis the season when Narcs are coming Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la Pay Attention to the Hooverings Fa-la-la, la-la-la, la-la-la. Ditch their arses to their Mommas Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la!" Thought this would be funny to share, and on the spot about Goldie`s post!! This is the Winter Season almost dear frieds, pay attention and STAY STRONG (including myself :], because the hooverings are starting!! And the Switches from one woman, to another. Stay strong, and ditch their a*ses, where they belong! Out of YOUR life.
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hmmm
Met mine in November... 1st Christmas as daters simple,wonderful...just what it should have been. His 1st birthday together...nice,awesome,just what it should have been. My 1st birthday together...he outdid himself...must have burnt him out because that was it... From that point on (married now) every holiday was ruined...a fight was some how started and I was told to *get the F out*, and spent every holiday alone...except of course his birthday...some how I was always wooed back in for that event....kicked out soon after so 4th July was destroyed, the whole summer destroyed, the coming holidays destroyed...oh in between I was hoovered and lulled back in and like a fool in love I went because my marriage meant something to me... Hind sight...he claimed he never cheated on me...I don't believe him....proof or not, I don't care...he is a worthless piece of shit and a pathological liar...he lied so smoothly that, yes, I would call him a sociopath and not bat an eye, except of course for the embarrassment of being taken for a ride and getting in the car willingly. Dumped for every holiday and summers? Then being told all he did was sit around and cry over me...hahahahaha....then of course over hearing conversations about what he really was doing.... I do not wish him ill, I believe in karma...but I do pity his next victim...
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Also met mine in
Also met mine in November... 1st Christmas together? Great! (with the noted exception of his mother giving him underwear...ick) 1st Valentine's Day? Great! Diamond and platinum earrings from him. My 1st Birthday? Meh...I'd dumped him the month earlier over how disrespectful I thought it was that he slept through a date we had planned...we were tentatively back together on my b/day. 1st 4th of July? He had to work...nothing notable. His 1st birthday? Sucked...mommy planned his birthday party (and did so for every birthday of his after as well) at her house. Every single occasion after the first year sucked. He would become predictably depressed around TGiving and Christmas...many of them he had to work...New Year's Eve...we never celebrated - he usually had to work and if he didn't, HE didn't like crowds, so going out was never an option... I want to barf just thinking about this.
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November here too.....
Goldie
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Yes and your comment was posted at 1110 Reads
ifinallygotit
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The cold truth of this post
is tough to take, heart breaking, but these are the things we have to be able to face to get real - this one really really hurts me - we spent alot of intimate time together over 10 years and knowing it was just convenience is a killer... Thank you again Goldie for helping me be strong enough to look at this thing head on.
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This is completely true of
This is completely true of narcs! I always wondered why when the warmer weather and sun came out my exN would devalue my company and need to take a 'break' from our relationship, then, when the cold and dark came he'd want to be all close again. The final D&D happened in our third spring/summer, after he found new supply for the next upcoming fall/winter. He discarded her the spring after when he moved on (with another overlap of course), to the next new supply source. Since then I've lost track and really don't want to know anymore, but I did notice this was a pattern of his long before I discovered he is a narc. That in turn validated so much and really helped me to let go of believing in the 'closeness' I thought we had during those cold, dark, winter nights together. Journey on...

Journey on...

ifinallygotit
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embarrassing to admit
I was always away over the holidays so I missed TG and Christmas all the years we were going together but I know he was glad. He only wanted to be with his family on holidays - not me. And he did not include me in family dinners ever. He only spent Valentines Day and my birthday with me - he even did not want to spend New years eve with me - he was with his famous buddies and would just call me or text me and I took this shit - I accepted all his crazy rejecting stuff after a few years when I was trained - he really hurt me bad
tresor2
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Nothing to be embarrassed about, Ifinally,
the asshole should be embarrassed for treating you that way. Your story is identical to mine in terms of holidays and his "important" friends. Also, the text thing, and I took his shit too. Very crazymaking and it destroyed my self-esteem for a very long time. I didn't believe he was with buddies because he really didn't have any. My belief was that he was with OW, that was the crazymaking part. Good news is, we're both out of it.
ifinallygotit
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thanks for support
Mine really was show boating downtown being the big man here with his famous buddy - he preferred his male friends over the ladies - he only liked ladies to show off to his male friends and occaisional sex , not their actual company tho I am sure there were plenty of women around - I never felt like he left me for another woman but more to pursue his old image, his last shot of being famous at 55 after being a nobody for 15 years - smoking pot unemployed...his image was his love. I think I am still very freaked out a year later but slowly healing...I have had lousy BF before but never knew it could get this bad with a man - that I meant nothing to someone for ovr a decade - the other terrible boyfriends at least loved me and regretted their actions later