moving on. feeling stable vs. extreme highs and lows
moving on. feeling stable vs. extreme highs and lows
i'm in a weird situation. i decided to take a long break from dating after the N. I have also cut my Mother N out of my life. I met a guy at the gym and I let him know that I was taking time to heal and I did not want a rel. So we became really good friends. I had surgery last week and he offered to take care of me and we actually became very close. He literally has just told me everything I want to hear. That my happiness means more to him than his own, that I have all the qualities he wants in a woman, that he wants a future w me, that my heart is safe w him. The thing is I BELIEVE HIM.
After narc however, I feel like what is wrong with this man who is making sacrifices for ME? I am dumb, I was the one dumped by the N - I am unworthy.
Away from the dating scene I am confident. I just think my Mother N engrained in me that I'm not worthy, that I should have been aborted that I'm a "mistake" so I carry this over to my relationships.
He said he would wait until I was ready but that no matter what my answer is he isn't interested in other women and he will wait.
He is very handsome and successful and makes me laugh and I do care about him. But this is the messed up thing... I was so used to the extreme HIGHS with the N that I feel bored with this guy. Here is a secure, stable, good guy who is capable of treating me like a queen and I long for a roller coaster?!?!
Has anyone else had these feelings when trying to move on after the breakup? I don't want to mess up a potentially awesome relationship. I'm so confused.
I am six months after d&d btw and same for NC.
Sigh...
Please be careful
Agree with LessonLearned
Be careful, nlvr
Boredom
don't rush
just to clarify im not asking
nlvr7 I know that last
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nlvr7 I SMELL A NARC and the
agree
He only has 2 diagnostic
Sorry nlvr7 I didn't
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