If a narc has someone else, why does he/she still bother an ex?
If a narc has someone else, why does he/she still bother an ex?
This question has nothing to do with me, it's just something I wonder about when I read various stories on here, whereby the N has left the person for someone new, yet still hoovers the former lover/spouse.
Unless there's kids, there's no need for contact.
To the best of my knowledge, my ex N wasn't cheating. But, I say 'to the best of my knowledge.' lol
I left him, when the abuse got to be too much...and so I never really dealt with my ex leaving me and then also coming back to me, while he had someone new. I started dating shortly after the break up (way too soon) and then I had heard about a girl he started dating after that. He really devestated her from the sounds of it. This was all last year, and I have since not been in contact with that whole social group.
I read a lot of stories on here, where the ex broke up with some of you for a new person. But, they are still coming back around to you...telling you he/she loves you...or saying nasty things...hoovering in general.
Why do they hoover if they have 'secured' new supply?
I have read about this disorder quite a bit, but this part never touched in my personal experience, so I guess when I read these stories, that part of it makes little sense.
Is it because they just wish to have endless attention? Triangulation?
the grass is greener
control
S U P P L Y wish I knew it
I Want to say buy a freaking clue!
Deidre99
For supply.
In my situation
triangulation, yes this makes
Deidree99
Thier mission is to secure
Great answers.....
So true
Well, at least he was honest.
He's already there!
as they have diffrent boxes
Yeah?
YEAH....