If a narc has someone else, why does he/she still bother an ex?

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#1 Jun 14 - 10AM
Deidre99
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If a narc has someone else, why does he/she still bother an ex?

This question has nothing to do with me, it's just something I wonder about when I read various stories on here, whereby the N has left the person for someone new, yet still hoovers the former lover/spouse.

Unless there's kids, there's no need for contact.

To the best of my knowledge, my ex N wasn't cheating. But, I say 'to the best of my knowledge.' lol

I left him, when the abuse got to be too much...and so I never really dealt with my ex leaving me and then also coming back to me, while he had someone new. I started dating shortly after the break up (way too soon) and then I had heard about a girl he started dating after that. He really devestated her from the sounds of it. This was all last year, and I have since not been in contact with that whole social group.

I read a lot of stories on here, where the ex broke up with some of you for a new person. But, they are still coming back around to you...telling you he/she loves you...or saying nasty things...hoovering in general.

Why do they hoover if they have 'secured' new supply?

I have read about this disorder quite a bit, but this part never touched in my personal experience, so I guess when I read these stories, that part of it makes little sense.

Is it because they just wish to have endless attention? Triangulation?

Jun 16 - 3PM
agnesmurphy17
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the grass is greener

Jun 16 - 3PM
abreva
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control

Jun 16 - 12PM
shyloh
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S U P P L Y wish I knew it

Jun 16 - 3PM (Reply to #15)
LindsayM
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I Want to say buy a freaking clue!

Jun 14 - 11AM
Janie53
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Deidre99

Jun 14 - 11AM
Emma
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For supply.

Jun 14 - 11AM
DJ
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In my situation

Jun 14 - 11AM (Reply to #10)
Deidre99
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triangulation, yes this makes

Jun 14 - 8PM (Reply to #11)
Janie53
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Deidree99

Jun 14 - 11AM
Hunter
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Thier mission is to secure

Jun 14 - 11PM (Reply to #2)
LindsayM
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Great answers.....

Jun 16 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
losing the battle
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So true

Jun 16 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Deidre99
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Well, at least he was honest.

Jun 16 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
losing the battle
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He's already there!

Jun 16 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Used
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as they have diffrent boxes

Jun 16 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
losing the battle
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Yeah?

Jun 16 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Used
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YEAH....