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#1 Dec 29 - 6PM
malloryforest
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Girlfriend contacted me

Girlfriend contacted me by email. I thought I had her blocked. Anyway, she told me that she is leaving. The lies continue. She doesn't know exactly when she will be out of the house, but sometime within the next four weeks.

I have not responded and will not respond. Sounds fishy to me.

Dec 31 - 10PM
malloryforest
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Two texts

The freak has sent me two emails today demanding that we talk. I have not responded to any of them. Trying to keep my mind off the craziness. Took the kids out this afternoon. Came home. We all made dinner, played board games, played with markers, play-doh, dressed up in dress up clothes, and had our own New Years Eve party. It was really fun. Tomorrow, I am going to take them to the local children's museum. I have to keep as much distance as possible from the two crazies. The more time away from him, the happier I feel. Had an appointment with the kid's therapist today. SHe has already felt very strongly, but now feels even more strongly, that the kids should have no contact with my STBXNH and his gf's relationship. She is willing to fight in court to protect the kids from him and his enviroment. It felt good to talk with her. Thank you all so much for your help over the last couple of days. I have a feeling I am going to be hit very hard over the weekend with contact from both him and her. I will stand my ground with no response.
Jan 1 - 1AM (Reply to #48)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

demanding??? LOL what an a**HOLE! if he somehow ambushes you over the weekend, tell him you will not speak to him and he's to call your lawyer because he's harassing you. then take your phone off the hook for a good hour so he can't call you back. Don't answer texts, etc. Nothing. NADA!!! Simply text him ONCE if he does text you "you MUST speak to my lawyer... not me" then BLOCK HIS NUMBER, delete he's going CRAZY trying to bait you into contact. DO NOT LET HIM CONTACT YOU. DO NOT ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION WITH HIM. DO NOT TRY TO REASON WITH THIS MORALLY INSANE FREAK. RING - IF YOU ACCIDENTALLY ANSWER HIM: "Hi... blah blah blah bladdity blah..." YOU "call my lawyer..." HIM: "listen you MUST talk to..." CLICK... DIALTONE Otherwise SIMPLY DON'T ANSWER - let your lawyer know she must send them BOTH a formal letter about this harassment. Don't be available to him. As long as the kids are with you - you don't need to speak to him about ANYTHING!!!!!! DEMANDING? he makes me LAUGH! He's got no right to DEMAND anything... SOCIOPATH! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 31 - 3PM
4joys4
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"he is now a

"he is now a vegetarian"..ROFL!
Dec 31 - 3PM
4joys4
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Don't be part of the

Don't be part of the triangle he is creating. Don't respond. Safe the letters. See how the circle comes around..for those of you jealous of the new girlfriend?
Dec 31 - 12PM
malloryforest
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Getting blasted with emails

Now I am getting blasted with emails about how I screwed him over???? I am not responding, and sending them all to the lawyer. He needs to go away with his true love gf, and leave me alone. I am sorry, I am sure I will be venting here today so that I do not respond to him!
Dec 31 - 1PM (Reply to #43)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

see... all you have to do is NOTHING but you're still a character in the delusional little drama he's spinning with the girlfriend. http://www.lisaescott.com/2009/12/31/narcissists-disdain-reality you 'screwed him over' by not buying into, reacting to and thereby supporting his screwed up delusions!! BOO FRIGGIN' HOO on him! your lawyer needs to send them BOTH letters to stop the harassment!! this is harassment... just sit back, laugh and enjoy the show... NO CONTACT!!! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 31 - 1PM (Reply to #44)
quietude (not verified)
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exactly!

What Barbara says...let them work themselves into a total frenzy, grab your popcorn, and relax...:)
Dec 31 - 11AM
Carolyn
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this is off topic but

this is off topic but similar. I had a counselor friend who was asked to do counseling with a cop who had sexual contact with a duck. She told them to call the SPCA. I haven't thought of that in a long time. He lost his job due to drugs and when the officers who raided his apartment looked at some tapes there he was with the duck.
Dec 31 - 3PM (Reply to #41)
ForeverLearning
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Sex With Animals - Complete and Utter Horror

The concept is beyond horrific. 20 years ago I had the misfortune of seeing actual footage of this behaviour on video tape. I promise you once you have seen this you will never get over having seen it. It haunts me to this day. Sorry to sound overly dramatic, but it is pure evil, there is no other way to describe it, just as pedophiles are.
Dec 31 - 11AM (Reply to #39)
malloryforest
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Carolyn

That is so funny. Him and the duck. The duck image is even more strange to me than the chicken. Thanks for the laugh.
Dec 31 - 12PM (Reply to #40)
quietude (not verified)
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oh my

Guess he thought he was clever to go 'fuck a duck'... I can't even begin to wrap my mind around how disgusting a a 'person' you have to be to consider something like this.
Dec 30 - 8PM
cynthia (not verified)
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wait a minute

This is all so crazy but isnt this the chicken f---er,? You might want to ask her if he keeps lots of frozen chickens in his freezer, NO DONT DO THAT, wouldnt look good on the divorce papers. If I have the wrong nac so sorry I better just take my xanax and go to bed. How bizarre is this, sounds like something mine would do, wants his GF and I to talk on the phone and get to know each other, then we all crawl in bed afterwards, ya Mallory stop being a predator and quit following this guy to the mall. By the way, I dont think it was coincidence at all you saw him, especially with all the texts from the Gf and him calling, talk about weird timing. I think he wanted you to see him because he was testing your reaction, wanting to hear what you would say to him, and he even parked near you? I dont know I dont put ANYTHING past these sick individuals, guess I am paranoid, I dont trust anyone anymore only my gut instinct. They are something else arent they?
Dec 30 - 8PM (Reply to #28)
malloryforest
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chicken fucker

yes, he is the chicken fucker, but he has become a vegetarian. Tofu fucker? Haven't heard anything from the two of them since I set strict boundaries with them, and copied my lawyer. They have probably already reconciled and are once again talking about their deep "true love." Gosh, I want this to be all over. They are both sick.
Dec 30 - 8PM (Reply to #29)
cynthia (not verified)
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followed by a chicken predator

deep true love my ass, the only thing that runs deep in him is bullshit. He is probably laying in bed telling her he thinks you followed him the the mall, I am serious. Anyone that stays with him is sick, (he will make sure of that) that is why we got out of their sick lives, she will too eventually but what do you care, you are on the road to healthy living again. She probably holds the chicken for him while he gets off, her day of truth will come and she will go thru the same hell we did, but its a journey she must come to terms with in her own time. You just keep moving forward as we all are doing.
Dec 30 - 9PM (Reply to #30)
quietude (not verified)
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cynthia

LMAO! Girl, you are too funny! Oh boy, imagine if mallory's stbx knew he's known infamously in these here parts as the chicken effer! He'd probably love that we're just talking about him...anyhow... The sad thing is cynthia, this guy is so screwed in the head, that I think he believes everything that comes out of his mouth. I know N's do generally, but this guy is so far-gone fantasy-wise. I'm sure he wants to rid himself of this girl, but then he'll be alone because he knows mallory's "in the know" now.
Dec 31 - 5PM (Reply to #35)
cynthia (not verified)
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Quietdue

I think mine takes the cake on F up,mine kept wanting his girlfriend and I to have sex with him, ha ha ha Oh sure I am going to do that watch you screw your GF in front of me, and remembering all the promises of I was the one he had been waiting for, right I will just get naked with the two of them then leave and they can talk about my body parts, and watch them cuddle together while I was just the whore they had for the night. Now that takes the cake on seeing the GF up close and personal if you get my drift. These guys are really sick and he has the nerve to say now dont be jealous when you see us together, JEALOUS he says, that is not the word that comes to my mind, maybe nauseated, (this was some time ago) so I told him why would I be jealous I mean NOTHING to you and either does she, so very sick never thought people could do such things and wish I never discovered anyone like him
Dec 31 - 7PM (Reply to #36)
malloryforest
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Cynthia

I can't believe he wanted you to have sex with him and his gf. You know, at this point, nothing should amaze me about these sicko's behavior, but it does. No, I wouldn't be jealous if I saw them, I too would be nauseated. And what is up with the OW? You are right, we mean nothing to them.
Dec 31 - 9PM (Reply to #37)
Barbara (not verified)
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you're right - SICKENING

my best friend is bisexual she's also young enough to be my daughter Psycho-Boy wanted the 2 of us to have sex so he could watch horrifying... from mr. religious-moral-ethical-familyman... and the wife believes I taunted him, lured him, that I wanted to see him with other women... found women for him!!! (he got a hold of my AOL buddy list and tried to get sexual with every female on it!) God... what morons these gfs/ wives who stick around are! I guess I should be grateful there were no kosher chickens involved... that I knew of! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 30 - 9PM (Reply to #31)
malloryforest
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quietude

You got it. There is no doubt in my mind that he wants to be done with his gf. I also know that he knows that he is no longer full of me. He would rather just go on using and hurting his gf, than being alone. He is telling her how he misses his kids, how he is so sad, how tries to connect back with me just because he misses his kids. How I am horrible, etc. etc. She eats it up. I am sure she believes, "Oh he is such a great guy cause he misses his kids. That ex wife is such a horrible bitch. He loves me, but that ex is always trying to lure him back in. If only that ex wife would just be out of the picture. He is such a victim. He loves me." It doesn't matter the crap he feeds her or the stuff she chooses to believe. The kids and I are on the road to freedom. Quietude, he does believe everything that comes out of his mouth. He says one thing to her, one thing to me, one thing to his mother, one thing to his friend, etc. All of it contradicts itself, and all of it he believes. Well, gf can continue being used to clean his house, fed his animals, and keep him afloat. I don't want the job anymore. I take it as a compliment that he knows that I am "in the know." It means i have finally woken up and no longer believe the b.s.
Dec 30 - 9PM (Reply to #32)
Barbara (not verified)
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memorial

once everything is done & signed I offer my free services to put up a whole memorial webpage to CHICKEN FUCKER... ...complete with photos and memories from those who know him best... ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 30 - 10PM (Reply to #33)
malloryforest
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Can the chickens

Can the chickens be a part of the memorial web page????? They want their say.
Dec 30 - 10PM (Reply to #34)
Barbara (not verified)
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the chickens...

oh yes - chickens will be an integral part of the page... here's one I found already: http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x75/Fire_Proof_Eagle/016.jpg ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 30 - 4PM
grossot
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mallory

Get a restraining order against both of them http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled
Dec 30 - 4PM (Reply to #23)
malloryforest
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He left two messages

He left two messages for me today, but I have not responded. She has not contacted me since this mornings couple of contacts. I think they both got the picture to leave me alone, that I think they are nuts, that my lawyer is on the case, that he needs to sign the papers, etc. I am sure they are patching it up while we speak. Lets hear it for healthy relationships. Theirs is quite an example.
Dec 30 - 7PM (Reply to #24)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

I have a feeling she's really far gone with brainwashing and being sexually overwhelmed by him. Just be far away when that crash comes, Mallory. And it is coming. ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 30 - 8PM (Reply to #25)
malloryforest
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Barbara - Custody papers

Barbara, He is not signing the custody papers. He stated that he wants to have his gf be a part of the visits in Chicago. The same gf he told me this weekend that he sees no future with. The same one that contacted me. I sent everything to my lawyer. I told her that I want to force him to sign the papers by Jan. th. If he doesn't sign the papers, he is going to court. I can't imagine any judge telling me that the kids have to go visit their dad in CT, in a house inhabited by his gf and her children, a house that is going to go into foreclosure, and him with out a job. There is also stability that he is going to remain in CT, or in this country for that matter, since his duture job could take him any where. I also can't imagine any judge stating that during his visits, which consist of two days per month, he can include his gf. I don't think any judge would support introducing the kids to their sick, unstable relationship. I want the custody papers signed. I want to move on to the financials, and I want to be divorced. I think both my STBXH and his gf are BOTH very mentally ill, and I don't want the kids anywhere near them. My kids therapist agrees with everything I have just stated, and is willing to go to court to fight to protect the kids. Any advice on how to proceed will be greatly appreciated.
Dec 30 - 10PM (Reply to #26)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

this is all great you are doing fine just STAY THE COURSE and don't be talked out of anything... demand he go to court and file for CONTEMPT if he doesn't sign by the time given Supervised visitation return of marital funds to you and contact perhaps ONLY thru a 3rd party SOCIOPATH!!! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 30 - 8AM
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Glad I didn't get involved

Got a text from her this morning. She sent it to me from his phone. Looks like she is going to work it out with him. Man, the two of them are so sick.
Dec 30 - 10AM (Reply to #13)
malloryforest
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Got another email from GF

The GF sent me another email stating that her and my STBX are just fine, and that I need to stop trying to lure him back, and that it is time for me to move on. LOL. This has got to be my favorite of the bunch. Did not respond. Just sending everything to my lawyer. I am ready to fight for no visitation. I honestly think the TWO of them are crazy.
Dec 30 - 3PM (Reply to #21)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

HE'S TELLING HER YOU ARE TRYING TO LURE HIM BACK!! you have GOT to send that one to your lawyer!! That's priceless... and it's harassment! ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website