You can't control him; but you can control YOU!
You can't control him; but you can control YOU!
Many of you remember my story from last year (and another narc I dated prior to that narc...I promise, I'm done with narcs!)
Well. What I gleened from NC is this. That we can't control another person, but we can control OUR ACTIONS. OUR REACTIONS. When he ignores you/gives you silent treatment...you can't control that, but you can stay silent. When he texts you ranting and raving...you can't control that, but you can stay silent. When you look at his facebook and want to blow a gasket...DON'T. STAY SILENT.
NC IS THE GREAT EQUALIZER. It heals. It really brings clarity, and peace of mind. That is how we regain OUR control over our own lives. For a long time ...we have let narcs control us. But, if you want to change...heal...and never darken another narc's doorstep again...take control over who you are and what you want out of life.
NC will put you in the driver's seat again of your own life. You can't change if he's fucking 1000 women a day...or if she's fucking 1000 men a day...and this is all unfolding on FB...but you can choose dignity. You can choose to stay silent.
It took me a long time last year to get this, but once I maintained NC...(the narc went nuts, and started hoovering big time)...it gave me my life back.
Just wanted to share this with you all, especially if you're struggling with the overall concept of complete NC.
Thanks
Emmy
Emmy
Deidre
Instead of controlling him
snowflake
Timely and powerful
Maya
you both will make it
Deidre
I too needed to hear this...
and dare I say. when he went
Deidre