Facebook :(

I was doing this too..but ive realised that all it does is hurt me ..as its such a fake impression of someone's life. we are also in a social group in the same city and ive stopped checking his profile on that too..... Ive hidden all mutual friends and asked people not to talk to me about him. I could still look but instead I go and do something for me instead...... six weeks out of this relationship so its still early days. Good luck.

I blocked him and everyone related to him in any way!!!! Yes you can unblock it of course, BUT during the time it takes you to go through the steps to unblock it, you will hopefully smack yourself upside the head and stop yourself.... This is what worked for me!! I have no idea and have no desire to know what is going on with him on FB or the OW.... I have been there and done that in the beginning and found that it hurts like freakin hell!!!! Why do that to yourself?!?!?! Contact=Pain...like Hunter always says....listen and believe it!

FB is evil. I have said this a lot on here. You just have to make a committment to not check it. Maybe just tell yourself to not check it TODAY. And then when today passes...tell yourself...TOMORROW. Pretty soon...a few days will go by, and you will feel lighter. Freer. I don't use FB. I did at one point, but for these very reasons, to me? It's unnecessary drama, and nonsense. And a playground for assholes like your and my ex N's. NO THANKS! I did however belong to a website with him, where he created ALL SORTS OF DRAMA over me, and about me. Eventually, because he is a colossal asshole...he was banned. I very very rarely look at that site anymore. So...eventually, you move on. You will eventually move on...but only if you go NC now. Part of going NC is no looking at FB. Not just direct contact with narcs. But, indirect contact too, keeps us from healing. So...be mindful. If you want to heal and move on...make an effort to stop looking at his FB. (most likely, his page is riddled with lies anyways to make his life look like a paradise lol) You know better. ;) And so will the next chick who gets duped and then dumped by him.

Oh hell...I still look sometimes. But for the most part, I don't care.

well i blocked. but would still find out about things through mutual friends. i found the blocking helped bc that way he couldnt find out what i was doing to see that his friends "liked" my pics etc. I bought a course of "FB Jujitsu" and I followed t advice and it just helped. Now my roommate did pull up his profile and i couldnt resist and did confirm t ow but you know what? nothing in reality was as bad as what i was *thinking* and based on what I saw/discovered I think I jumped three miles ahead in t recovery process. Now I have absolutely NO DESIRE to pull his profile up or would be tempted to look every again, i'm just THAT OVER IT. Just take it hour by hour. Maybe you will get a closure moment like I did. I hope you do. Sending you tons of positive energy for your social networking day!

Self control is imperative. You need to find a way to gain some. Looking at facebook pictures will bring you nothing but misery. We can sometimes be addicted to our own sadness. I think you may be at this point and you continue to feed it by viewing these pictures. Right now, you should focus on healing. Not on what he is doing or with whom. They are irrelevant. He is never going to be a part of your life again, at least not in a healthy manner. Please come to those terms and begin your journey. Nothing good will ever come from torturing youreslf. Find the strength to take a step forward and eventually get over this hurdle.

You just have to stop yourself. Period. You have to get to the point where you don't care what he does. I used to check phone records; I even subpeoned them because he used to be on my account when we had it joint. I shouldn't have paid attention to what he was doing so much with the OW, I should have been calling Child Protective Services instead. I wasted time worrying about what he was doing with her. It isn't like they will stop cheating, so it really doesn't matter. The new OW is only one more in a line of "NEXT". There is a famous quote from Coco Chanel (yes, of Chanel): "I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all". Good Luck! You can do it.

First of all.. Most of them have an open page.. FB is a predators playground .. What do you do to stop looking? Well.. you stop looking... Stopping your bad behavior is up to you.. I like cheeseburgers but I can't eat them.. I'll get too fat.. it's my choice to eat salad with fat free dressing instead... Hunter

Nadine, I too was doing this regularly. He deleted me from his fb after telling me his wife was suspicious and she had done it, I think it was one of his D +D's. He left it open to the public and then while still chasing me relentlessly, told me his wife wouldnt let him on the PC at all. He lied of course! I saw something which proved he had lied to me yet again! I now don't even want to look, check, anything, if I do, I see his picture and see a different man altogether. I can't block him because he deleted me, so I know I can look anytime if I choose to. It's true, you can create a false persona on there I do now because I know HE looks at mine! Every day I write something in about my lovely day, even if I feel dreadful! You can!! If his name is still in your friends list then yes, you can block him. It will mean he can't look you up, and you can't look him up, but hey, it will give you some power back yes?? I know its one of those things where your finger hovers over the delete button, but one thing at a time really helps in the end! I was in a postion where I would sit up at night just to wait for a late night text, sometimes it came, sometimes it didn't, he knew I looked forward to them, the cruel bastard stopped sending them on odd nights, then he would leave it for two nights, then three. Then he would say, I'll text you at ten thirty, have me sat there waiting like a lovesick puppy. But I still waited up for them not knowing if they would come!! It was a massive milestone for me when I was exhausted one night through lack of sleep, I actually went to bed and switched myself off. That text came just after I had fallen asleep,,,,,I obviously didn't answer. When I read it in the morning,I felt elated with myself!!! He then bombarded me with texts all the next day, asking me to talk, asking when he could see me. That one action gave me back a little power, and it felt damn good. It was that which made me realise it was up to me, I was giving myself most of this pain, and only I could stop it!! Block his page from your FB, tell yourself, I don't want to look at your face, you are a cruel Bastard!! Then hit that button!! You will feel much better for it xxxxxx

Have never been on FB, no one I know has a FB account even those in their teens/20s - you can live and thrive without it. Life is short, and there are many more interesting things to be doing in the real world. If you remove yourself from FB you will not feel unsettled by the xN or what course of action to take regarding this.

It comes down to self control I guess? I know Ns email so I can always email him if I choose to, I am choosing not to. Contact = pain and you are hurting yourself by keeping looking. It stops full cold turkey. Ask yourself what are you hoping to see? I have thousands of minger photos of myself..the nice ones go on FB the mingers lounge around on my PC..what I am saying is I dont always look nice but I create a false image on FB. I dont post things like not had a wash yet, stood in my tea stained jammies ironing..lol. What I am trying to say is you dont get a true picture on FB and are more likely to hurt yourself further as you will see 'the best side of him' and that will make you miss 'the fantasy'. Why not give FB a miss altogether, dont even log in..or disable your page..that way you cant look/you have to do further conscious steps to be able to look. I am not in a good place right now but I am relying on only cold turkey working..its more painful at first but I believe its the only option for long term recovery x