Was the N obsessed with anyone?
Was the N obsessed with anyone?
The exN used to depend on one person during our relationship, at least this is what I saw. That person was his closest friend according to the Narc, he was 19 and the Narc 28 when they met. The N would help him with his studying, go everywhere with him, confide his deepest secrets and so on. Back then I had this feeling that something was off with their friendship. If the N didn’t date me then, I would say he had, you know, another kind of interest in this boy. But as far as I knew this was not the case. Anyway, the relationship was really strange and I’m not saying that just because of the age difference, although I was wondering why a 28 intelligent and extrovert man (and he is all these) would depend so much on a 19 year old. But…
The N’s friend was an only child, had come from another country and a little insecure when he met him. The N once told me that he had with him the kind of relationship he didn’t have with his younger brother and that he was his mentor. When this friend made it to university, things changed. He met other people, had girlfriends, went out a lot, which made the N furious at times. 80% of our talks had to do with his friend’s disrespect of their friendship, that he was totally absorbed by girls and made lots of sex without any emotion (like he himself had any emotions…). He was seriously obsessed and now that I think about it jealous of him. The N even preferred spending a serious amount of his free time with his friend (holidays, etc.) than with me. I came to a point I was extremely jealous of his friend and he told me that I was being very selfish, I was not the only important person in his life and that he had lots of other people to take care of as well. Once he had a big fight with his friend and he told me that things were much better when his friend admired him (he actually said that crying). And now I remember him telling me that no one ‘saw’ friendship as he did. For him it was something sacred. When he was much younger he had a close male friend who disappeared one day without a word and hasn’t seen him since that day...
Everyone says that Ns don’t love anybody. How was he then so depended on this guy? I know, this isn’t exactly love…But did your N show any strong inclination toward a certain person? And how would you explain it?
Yes, they are obsessed with
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I agree with Sparrow. This
Journey on...
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You betcha
yes, it was really annoying.
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I kept wondering how he could be so sentsitive about this
Apart from being obsessed
Only his children, they are
This is exactly how xnh is
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
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narcs need insecure friends
The 19 year old boy was
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Mine had a friend, too, that