Sexual sadism- wanting me to have sex with another guy in front of him
Sexual sadism- wanting me to have sex with another guy in front of him
Hello.
Although of course I have experienced absolutely everything that is described in these pages...and am literally two days into facing the truth after an explosive finality, I have to ask if others have experienced this...
In the beginning, sex was of course amazing with my ex...then one day he surprised me with a request...that I tell him all of the things, in detail, that I have done with other men, because it would "turn him on." He said that because he was so much less experienced than me, it was a turn on, and that thinking of me having sex with someone else was like really "great porn."
When I did give him what he wanted, he turned around and said he couldn't have sex with me because now he saw me differently and he wasn't attracted to me anymore.
Fast forward, of course we had sex again, back and forth between hot and heavy and him witholding (I was with him for 5 years). He then started a long campaign to get me to have sex with another man in front of him while he watched, even telling me the details of his fantasies...holding down my arms while I was being violated by another guy. He said it was perfectly natural to have fantasies. At some point he would bring this fantasy up many times throughout the day in the strangest of circumstances...if I said something like "I'm going to the store," he would say "yea, well why don't you bring back a big black guy with a large c**k too..." or variations on that theme.
Of course I said NO, over and over again. He told me that I was just a boring mom and he knew I didn't have it in me, and that he wished he knew me when I was "wild" years ago.
There is so much more to this story, but you get the gist. There is lots of porn in his background, writing to other women online, secret email accounts, secret dating site accounts...(a father who also targeted vulnerable women and liked to watch his wives have sex with other men, pictures included, which he found as a kid)...all of which I found in dribs and drabs over the years, which he would say was my fault because I wasn't giving him what he needed emotionally. This last episode, where I guess he figured he could no longer get his supply from me at all anymore, was when I found him writing to women on craigslist looking to meet up. This happened one day after we had sex and he asked to move in with me and I said no.
He blamed the latest thing I found out about on the fact that he "felt rejected, he was bored, and it was just a joke."
I am now discarded. And a shell of whom I used to be.
Weeping
Sadly I can relate....
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My Ex Is a Sexual Sadist and Just Nasty
sick
Objects - That's all we were
I thought it was all normal, too, Barbara
normal
you know what the sad thing is...
yes
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nolongercontrolled
YES! He wanted me to tell
sick I know
Hi Cynthia- I was his
not quite
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No, a B...a name you
I have to ask if others have experienced this...
Cynthia, you were very brave
question
and I meant to add...
Thank you...I wish the best
yup....
yes - sexual sadism
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