New Here..but he jUST broke NC! HELP!
New Here..but he jUST broke NC! HELP!
Hi all..I'm new here, and was hoping to post my story before anything else, but he jUST broke NC and I took the bait! Sorry if this post is too long!
Background story: I was in a "relationship" with him for a year. However, he never admitted we were in a relationship. Instead, he called me his "friend" and introduced me as such. We took vacations togethers, we spent every day together, I kept a toothbrush at his house...the whole nine yards. Last couple of months were rough, as the needier I became the more he pushed away. He'd kick me out of the house during fights, and whenever I'd cry, he would look at me straight on the face and say "I don't need this drama , go home." He would also tell me I would be a "10" if I worked on having a butt, and dressed better. I turned into a mess, and HE kicked me to the curb a week ago after I found out he had met up with an ex-gf. He called me a psycho, and that I needed to get help and work on my self-esteem issues.
His friends told me that EVERY girl that he's been..he has broken. When we were hanging out about 6 months ago--a girl knocked on his door at 11pm crying asking to talk to him. He had kicked her to the curb a year before. His friends never really said anything to him, but THIS TIME when he got rid of me...they did. All of his friends took a liking to me, so when we had the huge fight last week, all of his friends told him he was a selfish and needed to learn how to treat people better. They also told him to leave me alone and let me be free.
For a week now, I've been going to the therapist, I re-lapsed 3 days after our fight..and wrote him a letter begging him to work things out (pathetic i know) and he never reached out. The last few days have been tough for me..but I HAVE NOT reached out. I deactivated Facebook and have tried to keep myself busy.
But today he broke NC. I knew something was wrong because he signed on to ichat (I had forgotten to remove him!) and when we were together he only signed on to talk to me. All morning I saw his screename on my buddy list...but I felt EMPOWERED having him right in front of my face and not messaging him. I went to lunch and came to the following messages from him..
"What a mess. What a mess we are in Vanessa."
"I don't know what to do and I'm sick of hearing everyone's fucking opinion on what happened."
"Things for me have gotten to the point that i have to leave miami. i just cant stay here anymore. You brought people into this so they feel thay have a right to say whatever thay want based on how its been handled."
"You need to see how angry I am and disappointed. I'm not mad at your reaction as much as i am about how you handled it all after that. and now i have nothing. You won.
You get miami as your prize."
And I took the bait. I basically said "things have not been easy for me either, but I've been focusing on myself. Trying to keep busy. Your friends will always be your friends."
and then he said he had to go to lunch but would be back.
WHAT IS HE TRYING TO DO TO ME?!!!! I am not as upset as I am CONFUSED. !
I BLOCKED HIM/HE INSULTED ME
Ness, make him go away...
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Just wrote in another post..I
"He goes away when you erase
Hi Ness
How did you break NC?
He's baiting you .......trying to
Welcome to Narcvilee.. First
Hi NessMIA, to answer your
Nan
Hi, Ness,
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