help please!!
help please!!
Got word today that it's only a matter of time now for the exN's mom. She was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal cancer and isn't doing well. The exN contacted me two weeks ago to tell me...I work with a friend of the family and he told me today that she isn't well at all.
I feel that his mom was his primary source of supply...just my opinion anyway. She helps him with everything, bails him out of every problem, enables him to no end....helps with his three kids, etc.
I did send her a card and gift...but I really don't know if she got it as she was in a rehab facility.
I know that the narc used it as a reason to contact me...as he contacts or hoovers every 8-9 weeks and has done so since I got all of my stuff out in may (i left in april).
Has anyone ever dealt with their exN or current N after the death of a parent, one of which is their main source of supply?
I've read they get worse...I know he will inherit a lot of money...his mom told me once she needed to change her will and leave someone else in charge of the money because her son, my exN will just blow through it.
My thought is when she does pass he'll use it as another reason to contact me. He could have cared less when his dad died, he really had no relationship with him and ironically hated him...but shocking from what I was told about his dad he sounds like he was an N.
I lost my father in 1994 and was extremely close to him...my exN knows this. I just wonder if he'll try to use the death of his mother and how we can now relate to having a "close" parent die as the ultimate way of hoovering, contacting me, trying to use me for supply again. From what I can tell from his past relationships...even when he was married...I ran a close second to his mother in terms of giving supply...even being told no one did for him what I did (yes it could have been bs)...but for all intents and purposes I did everything...I was like a partner and mother rolled into one.
Sorry I'm rambling...I just can't really explain what I'm trying to get at.
Death of the main enabler
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