Scared
Scared
I’m new to this blog, and my research on Narcs is recent also, about two weeks. A couple of weeks ago I ended the relationship with the XN for good after a year and two months of abuse. The first month was spectacular. Then everything went downhill.
To make the story short, he sent mixed messages about marriage and a beautiful life together with making me feel emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually inferior.
I broke up with him the first time because he sabotaged a meeting I had with my professor which I supposed would take place for the discussion of the possibility of following postgraduate studies with him. My best friend is a therapist and warned me he had NPD (it only took a meeting for him to figure it out). He was happy when I broke up with him. Three months passed and XN said he wanted to meet me. I thought it would be good for closure and agreed. And I got back together with him. I know I was stupid, I didn’t do the research I was supposed to and really thought he could get better, that MY love would make him better. Boy I couldn’t have been more wrong. I knew what I could expect from him to a low degree and tried so hard for him to open up to me and I opened myself completely for that purpose, so he would feel safe. Little did I know that narcs use this to their advantage. So after realizing things would never change I just left.
The reason for my post is that now that I have done more research on the topic, and learnt what they do and how they operate, I am scared. He once told me he was scared to death of me trying to kill him, thing that I would never do. If this is a projection, should I be worried? He was never physically abusive towards me, but he knows however that I have information that could destroy his career. He sent me an email about a week ago in which he posted a soppy love song that basically said “my heart is broken but I know we can’t be together; so with my best I let you go” and apologized for not being the person I needed him to be. I couldn’t help and reply something like “you have to have a heart for it to break and you let me go long ago (not with your best precisely), but don’t cry so much; soon you’ll find some other girl to sell your bullshit to”. I did this after learning about the NC rule, but I did it for him to know I see him for what he is (since I learnt it can help), but can it be enough to keep him away? Could I expect some form of violence as he projected? Should I be scared?
My best to all of you out there!
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