Well guys and gals - just thought I would share where I'm at nowadays
Well guys and gals - just thought I would share where I'm at nowadays
I've been out of the relationshit since April and virtually NC for the majority of that time - just a couple of blips (in order to recover my expensive possessions). No joy there but, that's no surprise to any of us. Still not returned.
I have been on this life saving forum for close on 11 weeks now (nearly typed years then - LOL). Have read hundreds of posts together with their helpful links, read a lot and researched via the internet even more. Felt I was absolutely obsessed at times and also thought on occasion that it might be prolonging my obsession with the ex but ultimately no, it didn't. I just needed that time to re-evaluate my situation and my feelings. So absolutely, time well spent ignoring everything and everybody in my life (much to the detriment of my household chores on lots of occasions) to concentrate on my personal needs.
But do you know what? I am now done with trying to understand what makes the ex P/N tick, the whys, wherefores, the issues and whose fault it was. He took far to much of my life and I don't want him wasting anymore of it. So enough is, enough.
I have put in place healthier personal boundaries whereby I don't feel responsible for anybody else but myself moving forward. I have always known where my responsibilities lie in connection with my son so nothing changes there. Of course I have sympathy and empathy but nowadays I feel that I am much wiser about extending/verbalising those emotions and would rather say "no" initially than running to be front of the queue to say "yes" before considering the ramifications on my well being.
When I start dating again I will stay close to Thomas Sheridan's teachings to remind myself about P/Ns and hopefully that will suffice. But, I do have to get back out there to practise what I have learnt.
I know I have to get off my backside to experience a different life free of the P/Ns of this world and test my newfound knowledge and awareness.
Anybody else feeling like I do? Would appreciate your comments and feedback please.
Dee x
Same here. I stopped
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