He came back AGAIN. They always come back..... He disgusts me.
He came back AGAIN. They always come back..... He disgusts me.
I haven't been here for many months because he was blocked and I was doing great and dating here and there and just taking care of ME. I had gotten to the point where I hardly even thought of him anymore and all the abuse I suffered was becoming a distant memory. Then...it happened. I had a dream about 2 weeks ago that he contacted me again. The dream freaked me out. But his cell is blocked, as is his email, and I got caller ID at work after he kept calling me there 2 months ago even though I warned him not to. Then I was heading out to meet a friend for dinner when a car like his passed by my house. I got chills. I could not see who was driving. Half an hour later....the calls and texts began. I had my cell on silent for dinner so I didn't get them when they came in and I did not recognize the number. When I discovered who it was, I immediately told him to not contact me anymore. Then the weirdness began. "I am reaching out to you out of friendship and want to know who you are" and when I didn't respond "Wow you are cold." It continued that evening (I was at my friend's house). He is obsessed with "who is your new beau?" and "what is your new beau's name?" and "when are you gettig married?" and "when did your new beau move in with you?" NONE of that is true....but I did not give him any information about my personal life whatsoever.
Then "have a drink with me" and "if not a drink, then dinner. I want to tell you what is going on with me." When I would not cooperate I was accused of being "angry." I blocked him as soon as I could get to a computer to do it. Before I did, I made it clear that I do not want him to contact me in any way....no texts, no calls to any of my phone numbers, no mail, no email, no coming to my house, no approaching me in public if he sees me. No contact whatsoever. I was a little frightened at this point and I wanted a record of my "rules" and that I spelled it out for him. Then I blocked.
I have had this cell number for years but now I think it is time to get a new one. On the upside, I have NO feelings left for him whatsoever, except disgust and wondering what I ever saw in him. His sickness came out in spades during those texts. He said he was "clueless" as to why I wanted nothing to do with him. WTF??? They are sick....and stupid. I WILL call the police if he shows up at my house.
So....they do come back. Even after months of NC. And they never heal, they never get better....they just get worse.
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Thank you, Syren....great advice!
Seven years with a big city
persistent...
Have you thought about
I had not thought about
Seriously?!!? The police are
Several years ago, I was
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Those are called stacked
psychological abuse...
Thank you for the advice,
So sorry you had to go
I'd seriously consider