Load of crap!

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#1 Oct 9 - 11PM
Sparrow
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Load of crap!

"I've kind of learned never to count on anyone or anything or maybe better put -I've learned I can't count on anyone. What I am trying to say, is I am looking for someone I can count on - would like that person to be you"

Really? What a beautiful sentiment. If it were only sincere............

Don't buy into their words. Trust me.............the words written above are merely words that the narc feels he needs to say to get back into your good graces, in other words, his clutches.

I'm not falling for it, feeding into it, believing it. It is all a load of crap. Unfortunately.................but must admit, he's good.

Oct 10 - 12PM
Hunter
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They have toilet paper on a

They have toilet paper on a blue light special.. Hunter
Oct 10 - 11AM
Crazy Train
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My xN said that he didn't

My xN said that he didn't trust anyone, yet he wasn't trustworthy. He said "I have no reason to lie to you", yet he ALWAYS lied to me. He said "I don't like cheaters and whores", yet HE was a cheater and a whore. I wonder what he thinks when he looks in the mirror. Probably, "damn, I'm perfect!"
Oct 11 - 8AM (Reply to #19)
Deidre40
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crazy train

projection is very common. basically, he was telling the truth. he doesn't like cheaters and whores...translation: ''I don't like myself.'' narcs hate themselves. so they project that hatred onto others.
Oct 10 - 11AM
Sparrow
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Legacy, mine use to do that

Legacy, mine use to do that same thing. If I had a dime for every time he got angry or dismissed me over a conversation I tried to have..........I would be a wealthy woman. Boy, I don't miss that one bit. It's funny, how most of them behave in the same manner. And scarey to know how many disordered people there are out in the world. I can never go back to that, couldn't ever believe a word that comes out of his mouth. As Scoop says, if their lips are moving, they are lying. Now, I get an email asking about the Phillies........I refuse to change my email address. He will stop, in time. As they all do. I will admit, this is unusual for him....his Match.com membership probably expired.
Oct 10 - 11AM
heritage
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So true Sparrow! And mine

So true Sparrow! And mine used to say he doesn't trust anyone! And I said to him "Do you trust yourself?" He looked at me, hesitated and said yes. Ha! They are the epitomy of untrust and that is why they trust no one. I know he had contempt for me when I asked him that but I didn't care. I got so tired of him always creeping around, being myserious, sneaking around, only communicating with me through informational soundbites. Never good conversations. He used to drop a one line comment to me and if I tried to turn it into a discussion he ignored me or God forbid if I didn't agree with something he said. It was all over!
Oct 10 - 11AM (Reply to #16)
Deidre40
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i'm starting to think we

i'm starting to think we dated the same dude. lol except mine wasn't smart enough to be a dentist. hahahaha!!! i'm so bad.
Oct 10 - 10AM
Deidre40
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The takeaway too is that…why

The takeaway too is that…why can’t they count on anyone? Haha Because they DRIVE EVERYONE AWAY! They act like people are not dependable. No. They are such psychos that people flee from them. And then they play the victim. Poor me…everyone leaves me. I’m soooo dependable, but no one else is around me. Hmmm. I told my ex…dude, you’re the common denominator of all your failed relationships and marriages. He didn’t like that.
Oct 10 - 10AM (Reply to #14)
Sparrow
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Deidre, you are absolutely

Deidre, you are absolutely right.............Glad to hear you don't take it either!
Oct 10 - 7AM
Sparrow
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Unfreakinreal, I must admit,

Unfreakinreal, I must admit, a hand written letter would have been a pretty tough one to ignore. Good for you, for respecting yourself and liking yourself enough to dispose of it! In the beginning, we would have fallen all over that sort of thing! Your getting there, so am I, and so many others on the forum! The setbacks suck though I will admit. Haven't had one in some time. At least the setbacks are anger, not longing, yearning. But it's still a result of his words. Regardless, an emotion was experienced, whether good or bad and it reminds me of the work I still have in front of me. Not out of the woods yet, but getting there with each and every day! Keep up the great work, everyone! The end result will be worth it! Sparrow
Oct 10 - 5AM
stones
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DO THEY HATE US

My name is Ian and my ex girlfriend was a NARC. like everyone on this site i was nothin but a kind caring boyfriend when i think the horrible things she used to say me she must of hated me. last thing she said to me on the phone was our relationship was only casual and i'm a maneater 6 weeks previous i had taken her to portugal and PAID for everything took about kicking you when your down
Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #11)
Sea
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Hi Stones

What I learn here is that N are very angry. They only have emotions of Anger, Rage - nothing else. The hate might not be at you, but at everything. Besides anger/rage, they have no other emotions, much like robots. They cannot feel love or empathy. That explains all the cruelty that comes from them, feels so "natural" for them, cos they dont feel it! I am sorry you are hurting, please read more and learn, this forum is a very healthy and supportive one. Please do stay and recover here. Read about No Contact too, it helps. Read the 6 steps on the home page, this is exactly what we need to do to recover. Hugs
Oct 10 - 3AM
Unfreakinreal
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They are good, aren't they?

I got a *heartfelt* letter in the mail this weekend. Including these little gems... I told you long ago that I could always see myself coming back to you. I am ready now, if you'll have me. It wasn't that I didn't respect you, I didn't respect myself. I am sorry for everything. I am tired of living without my best friend. I know now that you weren't just a rebound. I want our Sundays back. I know you don't want to hear from me but I miss you. I am lonely. You are the only one that truly understands me. I, I, I, I, I, I, I. I don't believe one single word of it. Out with the trash, along with everything else that serves me no purpose. I am sure he found another *best friend* over the weekend. I must say, the effort of actually mailing a handwritten letter was a good try... And yeah, I love that he is now as pathetic as I once was. Xoxo
Oct 10 - 8AM (Reply to #9)
Crazy Train
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UFR, wow, that was a good

UFR, wow, that was a good line he cast out to you! If it were all sincere and he wasn't a narc, then it would have been impressive. Given his disorder, stick this note in your shredder and smile while you're doing it :)
Oct 10 - 4AM (Reply to #8)
freaked
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UFR, stay strong and ignore his cheapskate attempts

what an assH he is to write that crap to you. I wish i could put on my batman cloak and decimate that Joker. Glad you didn't respond.. but you must be so bugged now. It is simply terrific to note that he is Pathetic now.. hope he sinks and drowns. ditto wish for my local narc..the NH
Oct 10 - 12AM
Parizade
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Oh man, he is good!

Oh man, he is good! Translating from Narcspeak, here's what he's REALLY saying: "I've destroyed every relationship I've been in, but I'm not willing to take any responsibility for that. It's much easier for me to blame the people I drove away and -- as a bonus -- I'm more likely to tap into your empathy if you think I was the victim. You seem like the type who will fall for this hook line and sinker and work very hard at putting up with every piece of crap I throw at you just to prove I can count on you."
Oct 10 - 4AM (Reply to #6)
Sea
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You just read the mind of the

You just read the mind of the N! This is exactly what the N thinks!
Oct 10 - 4AM (Reply to #5)
freaked
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perizade, the translation is perfect

Perfect translation!!! haha great one Perizade. i guess a Leech cannot know what is Honor and Decency.
Oct 10 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
meik11
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You hit the nail on the head

You hit the nail on the head with that one!!! Their ability to spit bullshit is sickening....
Oct 10 - 3AM (Reply to #3)
Tigerlily
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Meik 11

Is it "spit bullshit" or "shit bullspit"? (Maybe it`s both. Love Tigerlily
Oct 10 - 3AM (Reply to #4)
meik11
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LOL!... maybe

LOL!... maybe