maypop's story
maypop's story
Is it possible to be happy with someone who's only a little N?
I have been with him for 20 years, and I always knew something was not "quite normal". His insatiable hunger for attention in a crowd and his ability to break the rules were somewhat amusing. His obsession with his own needs, like hunger and tiredness, is like having another child. Most hurtful and difficult has been what I now know is the inability to empathize.
He had been outwardly very successful in real estate and other businesses. This was accomplished in a large part to our taking out home equity and credit cards loans. Now the real estate market has turned, some projects may or may not recover and we have about we $200,000 in debt. Some of these loans are in my name alone! It is hard to believe that an otherwise intelligent woman could have been so stupid.
Thinking back over 20 years, there were some very good times. Yes, lots of cash can really make things seem more tolerable. It seems the N behavior gets much worse when he is under stress. His delicate ego has definitely taken a hit.
Our finances are in such a mess now, that leaving seems the worse option. My first goal is to become financially independent and stable. My second is to get a strong support network.
Is there ever an acceptable level of narcissism? In a strange way, it is easier to live with him now that I am aware of NP disorder. For example, I really don't take it personally if he doesn't think I look good enough or aren't doing something to his expectations.
Maypop, I am trying to be
maypop
Is it possible to be happy with someone who's only a little N?
Degree of Narcissism
not like others
maypop - that was uncalled for
If you like being poisoned
Perfect way to put it 4joys
If you even suspect they are a N, they are.