Contact his wife? Or am I being Vindictive?
Contact his wife? Or am I being Vindictive?
I am new to this forum so please be patient with me....I am not too good with the abbreviations :)
I have been NC for over a month and quite frankly it hasn't been hard. I was in a relationship with this man for over 10 years. He is a Doctor, he is married and I had no clue there was a name for his personality type until I had a friend tell me (about 2 years ago) that this is what I was dealing with. He consumed my life. I have once child with him. She is four. When his wife found out I was pregnant he quit talking to me for 2 years. He would send $600 a month....(He makes over $35,000 a month) but I accepted this. He lies. He lies and lies and lies and lies and lies. I can't believe some of the lies I have believed. These lies and my own lack of self esteem is what kept me locked in this relationship. Oh, and I loved him. Boy did I love him. I was committed to him like a wife.
Fast forward, I found myself pregnant again. It was a carbon copy of the last time. His wife found out, she called me, he told me to "fuck off" the only difference is this time I DID. The last time I had conversation with him was when his wife called (August 8th, 2011). I found this website and I am so freaking happy!
Here is my dilemma: I want to talk to his wife again. My realistic common sense side knows that anything I say will just be covered up with another lie again. But I have emails that contradict EVERYTHING he is telling her.
*** For example: He told his wife that I drove to their town (5 hours away from my own home) to have a DNA test done on our daughter (I have MANY emails where he admits its his daughter). Instead of bringing our daughter for the DNA test I left her at home and told him that if he has sex with me I will not file for child support. I even brought a condom (Im guessing this "one time" is the time that I got pregnant with the 2nd child). EVERY WORD WAS A LIE and I can prove it.***
I just want to be validated? I think that's the word I am looking for. I want her to know that I am not a liar. I want her to know what and who she is dealing with. I am in counseling now and my counselor assures me that she knows he is lying. But why does she stay? I know she is married to him and they have two children. I know they have an appearance to uphold as they are both physicians. I dont know if any of this makes sense. Im not sure if I am being vengeful. I don't want to hurt her anymore than I already have. I am not a terrible person.
It doesn't matter what she
Hi Buckwheat and welcome to the forum
Hi and Welcome, Buckwheat!
Thanks Goldie
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