Questioning everything

The trouble here is men do some times fall in love with other women and sadly they do leave but a decent man would try as hard as possible to leave with kindness and grace , he would make sure you had everything you needed , its tragic when this kind of thing happens but a good man would bend over backwards to smooth the path for you . Your narc has been a compleat arse about all this . He is doing progection with a capital P . please stay strong . we are here for you and we dont doubt you for one millie second . Think back to this conversation you had with him Him "so i got this chicken right , it was frozen ..." You "WHAT?" Im sorry because i know this is serious but really who is the normal one in your relationship ?YOU ARE !!!!!! Big Love Peru x

What the heck did the lawyer say to you?

You are accepting his reality, Mallory. STOP! Yes, he really is that bad! It's not you! Don't just accept this, Mallory. What can you do to wake yourself up? What have you done in the past that helped?

Mallory total abandonment, disregard, undeterred attitude, self-absorbed, smug, hurtful, conceited, non-empathetic, argumentative, false, insincere, excessively rude, disrespectful, publicly humiliating, arrogant, vain, fretful, sporadic, remorseful, insideous, mocking, irresponsible, purposefully insensitive, all-pervasive, omnipotence, superiority complex, persecutory, delusional, abstract, fractured, disjointed, lying, fake, contradictory, unbalanced, blame-wielding, attention-seeking, big-noting, (constant) validation-seeking behaviour is not only abnormal- but is socially irresponsible & morally unethical let alone -interpersonally exploitive. 'Normal' people do not, can not, would not project those behaviours and without a second thought for the souls they potentially destroy in their path. To include their own children to the list of those they left behind... Is truly dispicable. Its not reasonable or acceptable behaviour and the quick reminder is this - would YOU treat someone like this? You already know the answer to that one. Sounds like you are panicking which is understandable. You have this entire forum to lean on and try to draw strength from. So, of matters of the heart - yes New doors can open while Old doors close. But 'normal' people such as you.. are incapable of the kind of conduct such as his. We cannot comprehend it. While we are left shattered they have moved fwd. to New Supply #602 (Barbara's pyscho-boy created profile cards for his bevy of Ho's?). Don't lose sight of the reality Mallory- It's not you. He is.. Not normal-Not normal-Not normal-Not normal-Not normal-Not normal... Once the final discard has occurred, and then the realization sets in...Is it like a grieving process? To finally surface? I just CANNOT imagine having a child/ren with an N. That must be HELL for anyone? To be dealing with your own dreams shattered..Let alone the pressure of our childrens emotional needs and adjustment-issues as well? There's a song here-"How am I supposed to breathe with no air?"..No one deserves the treatment of an N. I hope you dance xx