What Real Self Esteem Looks Like
What Real Self Esteem Looks Like
I believe that real self esteem is a quiet confidence. I think it's knowing who you are and the value you feel within yourself. You know what you bring to the table. It's something that can't be harmed or taken away; it's something ingrained within yourself. You are comfortable in your own skin. It's true authenticity. The narc may have temporarily harmed your self esteem, but in my experience, as you heal and grow, your self esteem is also healed and becomes stronger than ever. I believe that is a gift in this experience.
Everyone on this website is here because they have the "real stuff" that the narc is so jealous of. A narc has to have the perfect "shell" on the outside and act as though they are better than everyone else because underneith that shell are scrambled eggs! They know this and are desperately trying to hide it. All of the arrogance and posturing is nothing but smoke and mirrors for the real mess that lurks on the inside of them.
It's easy for me to love and be good to people. From my family and friends to strangers, store clerks, etc., it feels good to me to validate and be good to others. Why? Because I am whole. I can share my joy, peace and happiness because it lives within me. This is true self esteem. This is something the narcs of the world will never have.
what a wonderful post! I feel
Beautifully Said
Wonderful post
Nicely said.......... We need
Oh that's just beautiful!
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