Breaking up with the Narc

Hello. I'm new to the site and shared my story yesterday. I had an especially awful and traumatizing experience breaking up with my ex Narc. I'm curious to know if anyone here has had a similar experience as mine.

I dated him for a year and half and broke it off with him 8 months ago. I'm still traumatized over how awful the break up was. During the last month of our relationship it was very obvious that he did not want to continue. I tried and tried to work things out with him but to no avail. This was the love of my life, the man whom I wanted to marry. I had no idea that he was a Narc at the time. This has been a recent revelation.

So I expected him to break up with me but he made me do it instead. I had enough and asked him to call me. He wouldn't return my calls and instead kept texting me. I pleaded with him to call me. I wanted to do it the nice way, to be as gentle as possible. Instead he kept texting me, would not call me. I asked if I could come over to his place to talk in person and he replied that maybe I should just come over and pickup my shit. So that did it. I broke up with him via text. In the next 2 weeks he sent me nasty and hateful emails on a daily basis. I sent him some emails as well, mostly defending myself but stopped after a few days. I asked him again and again to please call me. And finally after 2 weeks we talked.

So he has made a villain. Has told our mutual friends that I broke up with him via text, while he was unemployed (he lost his job 3 months prior to our break up) but omits the details that he made me do it this way. He then made me feel very guilty about this, rubbed my face in it over and over. We tried after our break up to be friends. He kept bringing up the break up, even after I apologized for the way it happened. I was so traumatized, it still doesn't sit well with me that I broke up with him in this way. I felt like I had no choice.

Has anyone had a similar experience as this? If so, have you made peace with it? I'm still struggling.