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#1 Jul 15 - 9AM
Scoop
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Heres a post from Thomas sheridans musing about the final D&D happpening in spring time , April to June .. The first year i was D&D in June and the following year the final D&D happened in April . Hmm
http://labyrinthpsycho.blogspot.com/2011/07/end-of-april-to-end-of-june-...

Is there someing in this ?

Scoop x

Jul 15 - 9PM
Redhead1
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May 30 was final D&D. I wish

May 30 was final D&D. I wish I could do the time line on the other million D&D's.
Jul 15 - 9PM
Lost
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I met mine

at the end of March, his behaviour started to change at the beginning of June (the ex GF was back on the scene I've since found out) and I called him out on his shit in October and left his ass in November ... he then proceeded to call, crying on the phone professing his love blah blah right up until April this year and then he became nasty and I said NO MORE a month ago!
Jul 15 - 8PM
ruby01 (not verified)
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I joined in here

in Mid May and that was right after I got dumped. Honestly though pretty sure I've been dumped in winter, spring, summer and fall. I know I always got ditched before Christmas and Valentines Day.
Jul 15 - 5PM
Hunter
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June 18th for me

June 18th for me
Jul 15 - 4PM
Susan32
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The odd one, as usual

"There is a time to sow, there is a time to reap."-Ecclesiastes My final D&D went from late August-November/December. Basically, when autumn becomes winter... and winter is a season of death&hibernation (especially in the Rockies, when the aspens turn red&gold) The final D&D began approximately in September- that also happens to be the month of my sister's birthday, the pastor friend who died from cancer during the D&D... and now my brother in-law. The ex-Psych prof also has a September birthday. The reigning signs of August/September are Virgo/Libra. Virgo is usually interpreted as Astraea (goddess of human law, whereas Themis is goddess of divine law) and Nemesis... who punished Narcissus. Libra-the scales, evening everything out, bringing balance. Autumn isn't mating season. Hardly. It's when many animals migrate;birds fly south.
Jul 18 - 8PM (Reply to #24)
Susan32
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When I left...

I graduated in May, 11 years ago. I was in New Mexico for a couple of months with the UNM teacher education program. When that ended, I left NM around August/September... and he got her pregnant around the time I went NC. In May of '01, she had his kids, and the following month he married her. One of my friends studied NPD online during the final D&D, and she found the ex-Psych prof an oddity. She read about the seasonal cycling, and wondered I was getting D&D'd during autumn/winter rather than the mating season of spring/summer. Didn't make sense then.
Jul 15 - 12PM
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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Wow!

Mine started flirting with me more on FB in the Fall, around October. Unbeknownst to me, he was still married and involved with previous OW, with whom his online FB relationship started around September. By December, things were really heating up with me and ending with previous OW (I still didn't know she was in the picture). By the end of January, we met up for the first time and physically and consummated the relationship. I thought things were over before that with previous OW, but now I think he was still stringing her along and things REALLY didn't end with her until then. He separated from his wife in May and we met up again and shared our best weekend together a week later. Things were in the honeymoon phase with us until around mid to late June when I first felt him pulling away. Found out later he was trying to hoover previous OW during that same time period. Around late September into October is when I experienced my first real D&D. Looking back, there were smaller ones before that, but this was where things got really insane. I believe he may have been grooming new OW over the phone and through texting/emails during the Holidays while he was with me but pulling away again, and during the month of January while he was still stringing me along (not sure when the initial contact started). On the EXACT date a year after we first had sex, he consummated his relationship with new OW and dumped me. Last I heard, his divorce is supposed to be final in September and he plans to marry new OW soon afterwards. His cycle might not exactly fit the one described in Tom Sheridan's blog, but there definitely looks like a cycle! Wow! He hasn't tried to hoover me recently like he did last year with previous OW, but I have him blocked on FB and live across the country. She's STILL on his friends list and lives in the same state.
Jul 15 - 12PM
wacaet
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April 12th weird

April 12th weird
Jul 15 - 11AM
SusieSwizzle
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D&D in April

He came back in June! I ended it in July...This was very interesting!
Jul 15 - 11AM
bakingfortherapy
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true for me too...

My N was reorganizing and "figuring himself out" this spring...D&D me but still trying to keep me around as an option or back up supply!! Got back with his OW end of May. But I have to say dont alot of people want to be partnered in the summer months?? Especially with a new or refreshed OW? In the fall he has always come back around to me..We have years of memories in the fall. NOT THIS TIME!! NOT THIS FALL!!
Jul 15 - 11AM (Reply to #18)
dabussard
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bakingfortherapy

You go girl! Stay strong! Mine told me he would see me in November! That's when we meet last year... My response was "I will be way past you by then"... And, I meant it.. I have been NC since the end of May and it is driving him insane.. Hoovering big time...
Jul 15 - 11AM (Reply to #19)
bakingfortherapy
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dabussard

workin on it!!!
Jul 15 - 10AM
dazed
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Springtime d&d

Back and forth BS in April. D&D two weeks later on May 3. So fast my head is still spinning with disbelief more than 2 and half months later.
Jul 15 - 10AM
.brokenglass.
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That is so...

Unbelieveable!! In April is when my former infant decided to have the biggest tantrum I have ever seen...and the last week of June is when he took it to new "physical" levels and I had his tail arrested!
Jul 15 - 10AM
mystwoman
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Oh my gosh, I had never even

Oh my gosh, I had never even thought of this. This article rang so true. I hooked up with xnh in late spring or early summer. I can't really remember exactly when because it was almost 17 years ago. At the time, he dumped his first wife suddenly and targeted me as his "soul mate". Xnh dumped me on May 12, 2010, and I soon found out that he'd cheated with OW a while before the D&D. I filed papers with my lawyer the next day and the divorce was final June 10. So I guess, in my case, it was like that old zombie movie..."28 Days Later" and he was just another brainless dead thing to me, out there preying on the world. At least now (hopefully), I'm well enough vaccinated that I can't be infected again by his species. lol.

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Jul 15 - 10AM (Reply to #14)
Gullable1
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Oh my gosh

Vaccinated? Hehehehehe good one!
Jul 15 - 10AM (Reply to #13)
Scoop
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Yes when i first got with the

Yes when i first got with the narc it was june , so i was the new summer target .. ewww . xx
Jul 15 - 10AM
gypsii
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6/6

6/6 was the day he was thrown out :-) and 6/6 was the day I began the healing process.
Jul 15 - 9AM
dabussard
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Oh my

I started seeing my N in November and by April, he was moving on, so to speak... Then, said see you in November... This article explained my N perfectly... Kinda Ery... Yuck!
Jul 15 - 9AM
dabussard
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Yes, I think so

I was D&D in April.. He told me he would see me in November... He has been trying to get in contact with me about once a month. But, he has been hoovering this week.. And, It has only been two weeks since his last hoover attempt... Weird!!!
Jul 15 - 10AM (Reply to #5)
Scoop
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dabussard maybe he is

dabussard maybe he is hovering because his summer host didnt come good . Mine tyed a hover too but was cut of very short with a good dose of NC .. xx
Jul 15 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
dabussard
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Scoop

You may be right, his summer host may have woke up... I am staying NC and it is driving him insane... My therapist told me that he would either back up or up the anti.. I think that he is uping the anti, he doesn't want to lost good supply... TOO LATE!!! She's already gone... As long as I don't see him physically... I melt when I see him... The attraction is so strong... This scares me cause he only lives 2 miles from me!!!
Jul 15 - 12PM (Reply to #9)
Scoop
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dabussard

They can get despared when you go no contact , mine hit the bottle big time and now everyone comments that he is a drunk . And mine is still hovering , i dont know what the answer is to get them to stop , i text a few months ago to remind him of the violence he did to me and that i didnt want anything to do with him and even that hasnt stopped him (he had left town and there was a very real chance that he wouldnt come back so it was a calculated break in nc from my behalf , that didnt work )He is too close , about 500 meters up the road . one day he will leave but untill then he gets nothing from me . xx
Jul 15 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
dabussard
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Scoop

I think that he is hoovering strong this week cause his OW is on vacation in the MS.. She comes back this week... Bet (hope) he goes silent next week...
Jul 15 - 12PM (Reply to #8)
Scoop
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dabussard

That happened to me last summer the OW went on holiday and narc asked if he could do work on my boat for free . I hoped the answer would have been that he found a new supply but when he was with the OW it hurt like hell ..Time dose heal though , it gets easyer with nc and time , he kind of becomes like a mosquito i cant swat , a mild irritant ... xx
Jul 15 - 9AM
Gullable1
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Spot on

Every year near my brith day, Usually days before,.I often attributed the change in behavior to the soltice??. Some odd gravitational pull dramatically affecting select people Brian waves? Same phenomena that can be attributed to full moon and crime perhaps?
Jul 15 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Scoop
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Gullable ,I am so sure there

Gullable ,I am so sure there is something in this , something to do with the reptilaian brain and the primal instincs that are housed there to reproduce which is a primal urge in every creature .hmm
Jul 15 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Gullable1
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Typo!

Seriously? Think back in time? So many celebrations and rituals stemming from everywhere in the world ? Each paying close attention to the date, primitive man went overboard, modern man, finds his loins fresh with desire... (pound chest here, grunt, retreat to cave) Anyone remembere campy comedy in 80s? Cave man? Zuz zug And oool