Ns reaction to death
Ns reaction to death
During my relationship with EXN his father died.
He was in hospital for 5 days slowly drifting away. We all knew he was going to pass it was just a matter of time.
I took time off work to sit by his bedside to be there for EXN and his family. I didn't know his father well, but I wanted to be there for people I cared about.
When we were firs told in hospital that he was going to die, EXN raged at the surgeon and threw his hat.
Then he made a dramatic display of tears.
While we were all 'waiting' for his father to pass the n made lots of innappropriate and crude jokes. He was having a great time mucking around. All while his father lay in a coma on his deathbed.
EXN and I became very close during this time.
EXN did not cry once after that initial emotional display.
He did not mourn.
He went a little bit weird with me about 3 weeks after his father died and said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me. I was hurt but put it down to grief and gave him his space.
He came 'good'.
He didn't really mention his father and if he did it was only to incite pity.
He never cried again. Yet he had been fairly close with his dad.
Occasionally I questioned why he never got upset or spoke about it- he said 'you know me, I just get on with things'.
I looked up the seven stages of grief to let him know what to expect but he didn't go through any of these stages!
Fast forward three years and I asked if he ever thought about his dad. He said he cried everyday in the car.
Once we were watching a movie where someones partner died. I said that would be awful, I would be devastated if you died. I asked how he would feel if I died. He said-'you know me, I just get on with things'. That was a huge red flag and the beginning of the end for me.
It started to click in my brain that this person was not normal. He didn't mourn his father, didn't really care. Just milked it for pity. He would certainly not mourn me either.
From that point on I couldn't put a name to if, was watching for signs but didn't really know what I was looking for.
Anybody else experience similar?
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