His silence is making me question everything

Please, try not to second guess yourself. I know it's easy to doubt! I've been there. Trust your instincts. Read all you can about NPD. I still wonder if my N missed me or was affected at all by my leaving. It hurts to know that they don't feel "loss" as we do. I'm sorry, but the disorder keeps them from "feeling" shame and true caring. It's the grandiosity that keeps them self-centered. I know how validating a call would feel. I too wish/wished for that, but it really is a good thing that they don't. You say he made you feel in the wrong at the end. My N blamed me for EVERYTHING and then hurt me at the end. He even blamed my previous divorce completely on me, and fabricated a story that wasn't how it was. He never validated me, and that is I know why I crave it so much. The deprivation is truly abuse! Yet, that is why we have to do that for ourself. The fact they don't is highly suggestive of a narc who only cares about HIS "feelings." The ability to validate ourself is something positive we will take away from this wounding. The N, who is not introspective, will not grow. He may or may not contact you. I agree with another poster that he is probably respecting your wishes, as a child obeys authority, bc mine was like this. At first, before I left, mine tried calling (this after he made it very clear he was rejecting me and I was worthless, but he wouldn't leave a message). I did not return his calls, and he gave up when he learned I had moved. My N is not a chaser. He is cowardly, independent, and selfish. He would not put himself in the position of being rejected. My birthday passed and I wondered if he'd call... nothing:( As normal, healthy individuals, capable of really loving, we think they would do things like a healthy person, like calling before moving to say goodbye, whatever, but they're not. Try not to focus on that, bc it is not within your control, but rather use his silence to focus on you. REBUILD:) Doing so will also prepare you, if he does call in the future. You will be so much stronger from your core, and he will sense it as real! :) Honestly, what he said to you is not a bad place to get closure from. It's workable. Mine left me with no "help" at closure, he scapegoated me, projected, blamed me completely, and callously criticized me. I'm not saying your's did it kindly, but "sorry" is better than most, even if N's simply say what they think is right or what they've heard somewhere before, like a movie (example using a phrase that even another poster's ex used). I know that doesn't lessen the pain. Leaving a toxic N is VERY difficult!!! I'm so sorry you are going through this and feeling all the pain and doubts. Everything you are feeling is so normal, and this will pass as you remain NC and get further along in healing. Wow, I didn't mean to make this so long;) (((Hugs)))