A Cure from Obsessive Thoughts!
A Cure from Obsessive Thoughts!
Hi there, I went NC last Autumn but have had to see the N regularly on a very casual basis. I was having trouble getting over him and having obsessive thoughts. It was really hard. Well it's now been about 8 months and I can truly say I am nearly over it. One of the best ' cures' has happened to me over the last week!
One of the reasons I was attracted to the N was that he appeared to lead quite an exciting life. This made me re-evaluate my own life to spice it up abit with healthy activities so I would not look elsewhere for excitement.
One of the things I signed up for was to work with a major charity (Oxfam) at their festival shop. I have just spent a week at Glastonbury with them. This is one of the worlds biggest festivals. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done as the conditions were terrible in thick thick mud and lots of rain. We also worked really hard, about 60-70 hours and had to stomp through mud for an hour to get to the shop. I slept in a tent which gradually got muddier and muddier. I met some lovely people and on the little time off we got I saw some great bands. Well it was so full on I actually found myself half way through the week thinking ' Blimey I haven't thought about the N!' and I truly didn't. I was so occupied with surviving the mud bath, working hard, meeting people and had complete sensory overload with all the acts going on that my brain was too tired to think of him. I averaged about 3 hours sleep a night too! It was a little bit like being at boot camp! However I am really glad I did it and I think the 3 Oxfam shops may have raised about £60,000 for charity! I have come home and I feel like I'm back to myself more! hooray! I also feel quite tough that I have survived a N experience (for the 2nd time) as well as Glastonbury in the mud. I haven't seen him yet but I think I am feeling indifferent. I came back on Sunday and this is the first time I have been on this site compared to daily before!
So my advice to everyone is to push yourself out of the comfort zone, get out there, do things - anything to distract yourself from the N, live your life, have adventures of the healthy kind and keep NC. I think Ns can make us feel like our lives have got stuck but truly life does go on. Get out there and make the most of it, don't let the N hold you back.Things will get better for you all. Keep those toxic people out of your lives!
Excellent Excellent Advice!
Good advice - I notice the busier I am, the less time for him