Help! He just doesn't get it
Help! He just doesn't get it
I don't hear from him since he moved what little he had out my house in three days.
His response
"It's a two way street" (God forbid you meet me halfway)
My response- "I ended the Mexican standoff the last time we had an arguement as you didn't call as you were 'mad" and weren't sure I was going to".
He claims he lets stuff "roll off his back"
However, this last arguement only ensued because he asked how I was feeling.
I let the whole thing go 10 hrs ago when it happened in the morning. He brought it up later that day and my reaction has been the hellfire that has caused the monkey wrench in our relationship.
We all do things that irritate each other. Choose battles wisely. My ex used to leave his socks on the kitchen counter. Got tired of arguing over it. Started laughing about it.
So, Narc calls. I tell him stuff doesn't feel the same to me. He thought things felt fine. (Naturually)
He is so upbeat and happy it is sickening. Like nothing has happened and my strength has been sapped. I feel like I have been sucker punched in the gut.
He wants to take me to dinner. I tell him I don't feel we are recoverable. He said it is news to him, and he thinks I am a great gal, and that we had to take some steps back and we will probably never get closure over this whole thing. (and I said yes, because we never get to talk about it..he hates confrontation about any issues it seems)
He kept saying, "I'm here now...and I can take you out to dinner if your free" Pushy, no/
Silence on my end, I wanted to bawl. He keeps asking....
I bend.
What in the fuck happened to all the strength I had?
I told every friend I had I dumped him. To put the truth out there... I sent him an email which I know he fucking read as all his shit gets delivered to his phone and woke me up all thru the nite, I think he is playing me and trying to reel me back in.
I pulled every shift I took off to be with him, and told my coworker to find me another golf partner for Saturday.
So, I guess if he is going to feign ignorance on that, I'll just order a coffee and tell him in person.
Cause tommorrow I got promise and a date with an old friend who saved my life 10 yrs ago. A hunky firefighter.
Any advice for keeping this topic on track?
The only advice I can offer
Oh, the firefighter I have
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
You make your own decision...I'm not judging...
Dinner date cancelled...
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
My reply to the Narc
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache