A wakeup call
A wakeup call
Is anyone else finding that some of their friends have abandoned them during this whole ordeal?
I have realised that people I thought were my true friends have dissapointed me, and people who I barely know at all have been the ones who have stepped up to the plate.
I have a friend at the moment who is getting married and I am in the wedding. I did not tell her about problems with the Narc or that we had broken up for weeks. She never asked me those three words "how are you?" She could see me struggling but continued to ignore anything that wasn't wedding related.
I had not heard from her for weeks unless to perform bridesmaid duties for her, I even asked her if I could take her out for her birthday and she brushed me off because she was too busy with wedding planning. I have tried to talk to her numerous times but she is so caught up in herself. She called me last week out of the blue and I realised the only reason she called me was because she was having a bad week. The only reason she ever comes to me is if she is having a bad time and needs me. I told her about the Narc and ending things and she asked me why I never told her. It was fairly clear to me she has never asked.
Since I have told her she has continued to rub her wedding in my face, showed me love notes her fiance has left her, talked about how wonderful he was, broke plans with me because she realised they had somewhere to be and has basically made me feel like shit.
From this whole experience I have realised that I have not only let the Narc make me feel the size of a match box car, but I have let friends use and abuse me.
I am tempted to tell her to go and shove her friendship...but being the person I am I know I would feel awful.
I am ready to cull all of the people in my life who have let me down during this time. I feel like to move on with my life I don't need these people around me. I no longer want to be there as a sounding board for friends when they leave me high and dry in times of need.
Do you think it would be justified to tell her how I feel? Or endure the bullshit for a few more months until the wedding then walk away quietly?
Puzzle
half serious
I'm really sleepy so I'm sorry for the brevity
hmmmmm....
Thanks beamoflight. She is