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#1 Apr 17 - 11AM
Epiphany
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Notes

I was cleaning a drawer this morning (looking for tax document, yeah yeah, I know) I came across dozens of post it notes. I'm kind of a weirdo, when I read something profound or touching I scribble it on a post it and save it for later. I have hundreds of them because of the narc. I've been trying to kick my narc addiction for at least 2 years. I thought I'd share. There is no rhyme or reason to them. I'm glad I found them this morning.

This pathologically damaged individual is far too skilled at hurting someone.

I stayed thinking that I would win. In order to win there has to be a prize. He is no prize. All I won was heartache.

You cannot play mental chess with a pathological. They win. Narcs hit harder.

A relationship that ends is not a failure or a punishment, it is a lesson.

Narc's have no regard for the social contract, only to use it to their advantage. Sociopathy - the inability to process emotional experiences, including love and caring.

Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is the definition of insanity.

There is no treatment for a disordered person. They have no ability to change or repair. They cannot grow a conscience. They are malignant, cruel and abusive.

I no longer believe in your illusion. I have seen behind the mask of sanity and I no longer choose to deal with a disordered individual.

Every iron wears out!

Any addiction is a technique to avoid feelings and intimacy with others. A maladaptive coping skill to keep other people at at distance.

I no longer want to be a frequent flyer on the crazy train. You have taken my light and I became your darkness.

Apr 19 - 7PM
faithinthefuture
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2 of my faves

*It is by moving on we defeat our abuser, minimizing him & his importance in our life* *I can be grateful for being shown what I don't want, that I deserve love and it will come into my life*
Apr 17 - 12PM
Epiphany
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So I'm finally cleaning

I found more: If you put someone on a pedastal it only gives them the ability to look down on you. Narc's talk clean and live dirty. I mastered the art of giving away my energy. We punish ourselves and make ourselves feel crazy by expecting too much. Striving for excellence is a positive quality. Striving for perfection is self defeating. Obsessing, intense focus on others, done to facillitate the out of body experience we call co-dependency. Life is hard, dont make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. We all do big, small, in-between and crazy things to ward off, stop or stall the pain involved with accepting reality. There is no substitute. Part of being a con man is the challenge. The love bond transends hate so she remains bonded in spite of her loathing. What you have become is the price you paid for getting what you used to want. A narc will choose a powerful, extraverted woman because he enjoys watching the decomposition. He will go to great lengths, devious acts to make her think she is mentally deficiant. Inflict psychological devastation. They seek out in others what they lack in themselves and begin the process of appropriating what she has for himself. Their preferred method is to have the victim self destruct, allowing them to walk away in triumph seeking sympathy for what they've had to endure with the crazy person.
Apr 18 - 10AM (Reply to #9)
michele115 (not verified)
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Epiphany...

I am really digging these post its...keep them coming, I think they are so helpful to everyone here... Thank you so much for your generosity and sharing. Hugs!
Apr 18 - 11AM (Reply to #10)
Epiphany
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I have notebooks!

I have kept journals for a very long time. Loaded with post it's, scribbles, random thoughts. They're helpful when I'm feeling very stuck. I go back to a place I was 1, 2, or more years ago. Sometimes it makes me feel creepy and the pain wells up in big waves. I had to relive the sexual abuse going through all the notebooks. That was very difficult but I kept turning the pages to see the progress I have made. There's still a part of me that would like to see him in a cell and I wonder if I will ever fully heal from that. I am glad you appreciate them. Sometimes the one liners make so much sense. Hugs to you!
Apr 17 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
IncognitoBurrito
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BAH RUMP BAH BUM BUMP

Good stuff.
Apr 17 - 12PM
Veronrose
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Ephiphany, they're some good

Ephiphany, they're some good ones! Funny, this morning I too was going through some quotes that I've jotted down. Would you mind if I added to your thread?
Apr 17 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
Epiphany
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Please!

I love them, it's why I write them down in the first place.
Apr 17 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
Veronrose
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Thanks! Here's a few

Thanks! Here's a few more: Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth! He was willing to let you go, now it's time for you to let him go. In order to get where you want to go, you first have to leave where you are. Every end is a new beginning. Don't chase rejection. What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say. Your absence says more than a thousand words. Let a dog roam and he'll want to come home. A woman's silence has enough atomic power to make a grown man cry. You want a FRIEND??? Get a dog. (LOL)
Apr 17 - 11AM
It'sAllAboutMeNow (not verified)
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This is great..

This is great! Thanks for sharing. =)
Apr 17 - 11AM
michele115 (not verified)
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Epiphany

Thank you so much for sharing. These post it's are very useful reminders not only for you but for all of us. I hope that those of us who need a reminder land on this thread today. Please do share as many of them as you can. Your experience although painful is not in vain. You will grow, overcome and survive and on the other side of this experience soar...keep on doing the work, sharing, and taking inventory. The reward will be a stronger more confident Epiphany whom I have every confidence will not fall victim to a nightmare like this again... Hugs!
Apr 17 - 11AM
Hunter
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Amen Sister!

Amen Sister!