narcs and there mothers! 'Left in my bed in a dark room' (Ill be breif)
narcs and there mothers! 'Left in my bed in a dark room' (Ill be breif)
According to most descriptions, one of the reasons an NPD becomes so, because they are let down or devalued by there mothers.
My son is ill and his narc father is taking him to visit granny. My son is really not at all well, fever and off hsi food etc, but he really, really wanted to go so agaist my intuition I agreed. Poor little baba.
So I say to my son in front of his dad, 'I am sure nanny will know what to do and give you lots of hugs'
Narc says, 'no she doesn't!'
I say 'what?'
He says 'she never gave me loads of hugs, not when I was ill and not even when I was well'
he says, when I was ill she just put me in my bed in a dark room'
I say 'thats sad'
he says ' Yea'
I say 'I can give you hug now" ( I know dumb, but hopelessly empathic to the death)
And he says "I dont need any hugs' 'never had then growing up and dont need them now'
He says' my mum and dad never even said they loved me, my dad said it the once when he walked out on us'
I cant help but feel sorry for him...
But it makes perfect sense why they get stuck in madonna whore complex and devalue woman so much. The main caregiving woman in there life let them down, devalued there feelings, abandoned them in times of need and were just emotionally absent.
My narcs mother is ok but yes, she is a bit emotinally absentI have to say!
I would never and could never be like that...
If anything I am the other end of the spectrum.
Does anyone else's narc have a distant mother...?
Its why I hate cots and bouncers and bottle feeding and all the stuff used to take children out there mothers arms where they should be.
the world we live in that efficiently produces narcs.
The media touts beuaty and fame..
The work ethic favours business oriantated folk who must aquire money and power
The Western government sites indavidulism and requires us all to care for ourselves rather than a collective
and finally
We are too tired and too drianed by this style of livng to care for young properly so we switch off to there needs.
I never asked her..
I wonder if she let him 'cry it out'
I cant help but bet she did...
I actually feel sad for his sorry ass.
Qing Yuan
Reading that made me feel so sad. Its awful
Rainbeau's experience
Rainbeau for you
Both my ex N's had huge mommy
staying strong 78 - I agree except the lol
ifinallygotit
staying strong - thanks
ifinallygotit
but so have some of us....
dudette
Oh Dudette.....I'm so very
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thanks guys
Absolutely! I found out my
Quin Y
Great post
This is an excellent
Deirdre
Golden Child
Yes I think the mother of
yes, my N's mother is a narc