Co parenting Relationship with an N
Co parenting Relationship with an N
N and I divorced since August. We were separated for 3 years, I initiated divorce after some toxic VA and PA and control but I clung to a life raft of disaster for way to long. Still loved him when we divorced and prob still do, but know I am better off.
Trying to move past the him with GF and "insta family". D recently came back from visit and recently ExN has been chatty.
He called me last week to discuss taxes (posted on that). Now when he calls to talk to D he is chatty with me, regarding D. He doesn't over step any boundaries or ask personal questions. He just seems to want to chit chat about D-like what she ate while there, and specifics about her, that he never asked before. (maybe this is a good thing, as he is becoming more involved with D's life-but not enough to see her more often) It hurts me to hear him talking about him and GF as in "we this"(just about things as they apply to D) "we that", etc etc, doesnt he think this may still bother me. Or could he possibly think I am completely over it so it is safe to have these matter of fact conversations with him.
I know it doesnt matter what he thinks anymore, or it shouldnt, but when he talks to me like this, it is new and hard for me.
How do I co parent and maintain boundaries with him. Am I doing that already. Since he doesnt bring personal stuff up (other than his finances), do I just talk to him. I do tend to end the conversation myself. Becasue, sorry I may still some how love the father of my child-as sick as that may sound. But I dont lie him and I am not completely over it. In his way he moved on, moved in quickly with someone else. Me, I am not jumping into any relationship any time soon and I am getting over it by processing and learning about MYSELF, so I have more knowledge of myself and my D benefits.
what you think?
Being with my N and seeing
ugggggggggggggggggh. I want
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I agree
About Finances
thank you guys for your
If you give an inch they take a mile
anyone have any thoughts on
it's hard...
Thank you for saying "we dont
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