Narcissist Playground

Facebook is a horrid site and that's how the narc found me and pursued me in the first place. I do have tons of great friends on FB however - but, it def is their playground. In addition, the narc has hundreds upon hundreds of beautiful women in his friends list and oddly he also has tons of photos of him and every ex girlfriend he has in various kissing poses and what have you. It's SO SO SO SO SO weird! In retrospect I don't believe any of these women are "exes"...I believe they are all a collection of one big harem that he keeps going around and around. He told me that I would know if he were with someone else because his FB page would say "in a relationship"!!!! can you imagine someone telling you that this is how you would find out?! At that moment I defriended him for the second time. I found his FB collection of women and "hot" photos of himself to be teenage behavior beyond belief. I think I just love who I still think he could be. The illusion part of all of this is very hard to get past - that they will change and be the man you want.

He uses it to collect fans, over 700 He pretends he takes expensive vacations He pretends he has an expensive sports car He shows himself in back seat of limo with guy friend thumbs up Since we broke up he has pics of him and the hooker looking lady in bars He has likes for things he does not like or do He adds current teeny bop musicians to pretend he is young (age 55) He never told he had FB when we were together He has tons of girls on there from bars (they both have the same bar as likes) He used to have tons of photos of himself He has a pic of the dog I love that he also abandoned (expensive dog) I blocked myself from looking I used to rationalize that it was innocent because we discussed it when we were together after I found out (he acted loyal). I thought he missed having fans like the old days when he was a famous player - I felt sorry for him because he was sitting unemployed in his house playing on the computer but it got much worse after he moved and got a job, really showing off like "I'm BACK"....in the limelight again...I really felt ashamed of him when i saw these attempts to be cool and popular in his 50's, geez....but then again we both have been pretty pathetic - me pretending we had a great love and him just dying to be important again - I must say that I DO respect him for working but I doubt it is to support his teenagers like he said - looks like all about him on FB - plus he exposed his kids to this lady throwing herself on him that he has only known a few months - nice.

FB is horrible! I have it for my business and it helps tremendously! I used to have personal FB, but there was too much drama. My ex N never had personal and that saved me so much pain I see you guys suffering, because I have no will power when it comes to him. But now that jerk has a business fb page and I can't control myself from looking. I see him happy and going on with his life and his new YOUNG twinkie "liking" everything that's posted, which is a million pics of him. Its hell and I'm putting myself through it. Today is my first day of not peeking. You know what I've heard (several times)was the number one reason for divorces today??? F A C E B O O K!!!

like Facebook and am way to private to use it.

AND the reason for the demise of the relationship...at least the initial demise. I think any social network forum is what you make of it. I temporarily transformed myself as a narc on FB as a means of boosting my self esteem...took a ton of pics and posted them... also made indirect comments hoping he'd see them. Now, I blocked anyone who is not a friend from seeing my rants and I think I've cleaned up my act some... BUT I still like taking my pics...it's something I developed post narc and it cheers me up...I use faceinhole.com and I can be whomever I want to be...

yes it is... the tool of the devil...there is another thread on this on the board....a third of divorces are caused by FB these days I have deleted my account. it served no purpose apart from self-promotion for people and I worried that my XN would find a way to spy on my somehow despite being blocked etc... I am not missing it at all !!!