SCARY THINGS THEY SAY

he just did scary things - and made me feel totally insecure like he could just check out at any time with no explanation- and that became reality... he was very quiet - other than being irritable about being in a relationship, never cursed, never put me down (directly), never was weird sexually - it was all the broken promises and emotional abuse that has me feeling used and dead inside. Knowing someone does not care if you are dead or alive...

My N used to say down right scary things all the time. One time my status on facebook was that I was taking the 2 little boys I nanny for (aged 4 and 2) to ______ museum. I got a text from him simply stating: "There is a bomb in the _____ museum." UH!? Weather he was joking or not its a HORRIBLE joke. He also used to make jokes about rape all the time. He once told me that if he ever got me pregnant he'd push me down the stairs. He told me he'd hit me once and my jaw dropped and I said: you'd NEVER hit me!? He told me he would "never hit me out of anger but if I ever hit him he would definitely hit me back and I knew that" He would text me and tell me that "i was gonna hurt when he saw me" referring to hitting me. That doesn't even begin to cover the shocking things he often said in reference to my brothers chronic illness and how my brother was "going to die." I could go on.. psychotic. I'm convinced he was the devil himself.

When we first met he said people referred to him as a "tortured soul". He also told me his mother said of her four children, he was the one most likely to commit murder.

He was very tall (6 foot 4) and early on he said 'I like to look down on people.'I came to know exactly what that meant. And spookily, we once had a conversation about our first meeting and I reminded him of something memorable he had said to me. His reply. 'I will commit that phrase to memory but I don't thnk I'll ever need to use those words again to persuade you to do something' and that's what it was all about really...brainwashing and manipulation. I think he knew exactly what he was doing, just wish I'd listened more closely...

Having said my house was too warm and asked me to turn the heating off, he then said it was too cold and the following: "If it gets much colder, I would have to kill you and crawl inside your skin to keep warm !!!" At the time ... he was in the spare room, visiting as a friend because that was what I had been downgraded to. At the time, I thought he was going to say "I will have to creep into your bed for a cuddle to warm me up "! That was very very weird. I am in a desperate place at the moment after the latest (and final) hoover, things are coming to the surface and it is not pleasant

said as we were coming out of the gym together and there was a young girl about 16 years old going into it, 'I could show her a few tricks', made my skin crawl, ugh

It's good for me to put these things in print. See the horror for what it is. No more illusions. (All of this was said via phone or chat, not in person.) These are just a few of the winners. The list is endless... I will destroy you. I will never let you go. You're mine forever. ~It was these three comments that helped give me the strength to get the hell out: i am going to choke u now gonna f**k u to death bitch u won't be breathing when i am through

"We'll always be friends no matter what." I thought it was sweet at the time. Now I realise it means that whenever he wants to be friends, he'll hoover me incessantly and MAKE me be his friend, goddammit!

the most scary was always what he didnt say...... he would step over a dying person and get the TV remote. asked to communicate he always coped out. he threatened me various ways with veiled stabs.. but I was so in love with him in the begining.. i was as innocent as a child. Maybe the one I remember was " People like you commit suicide all the time" and seeing the young prostitues that get trafficed into Italy to stand on lonely roads. (we both have daughters this age)It would always disturb me and i would want to help them. he would say ...... at least his 10 dollars would feed them.!!! THEN HE WOULD ALWAYS SAY HE DIDNT SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HIM SELLING AN HOUR OF HIS BRAIN AS AN ENGINEER AND HER SELLING HER BODY FOR AN HOUR,!!!!! a real sick fuck....... gives me the creeps! very s

"Hello" The Second scariest: "I love you"

When I was emotional and crying, he became enraged and said " you are making me mad and you DON'T want to see me when I am mad!" that was the second N. The first N told me once that if he ever caught me cheating that he would kill me and hide my body in a deep freeze. They are all scary creeps.

The two scariest things xnh said to me were: "Why don't you just go ahead and die? Just hurry up and get it over with. I'd be happy to help you towards the goal." when I was incredibly sick, and he was angry because I couldn't go camping with him that weekend. I was having some serious health problems, and was sick a lot. He also told me, "Maybe I'll just beat the sh*t out of you until you divorce me." when he was in a rage. I have severe osteoporosis and this totally terrified me (just like he knew it would). What I told xnh when he said this was, "I'm calling 911" right after I grabbed the phone. I would have divorced him as well, but I wasn't going to tell HIM that or he would have beat the sh*t out of me just to get make his point. Xnh is a true as*hole.

After uncovering the multiple OW in my ExNH life, and kicking him out, he immediately resumed with the OW (plural)..of course NS BUT, when I had a date he went off. He phoned me and said "you tell him he's got it coming and he may not survive!" unfortuantely, the guy turned out to just be a friend, and it never went anywhere further..But, I thought you have some nerve threatening me or my date, after you have been with so many OW secretly while we were married. Just my opinion but Narcs were the creators of "the double standard." Also, now i make sure if I do date (which I am not now), I would never bring someone over here. Which isn't exactly fair to me because this is my home, and I do pay the bills around here. Kinda makes me mad he's still controlling certain things. But the consequences wouldn't be good- Hell he would scare off any potential mate. Who wants to get involved with a woman with 3 kids who has a psychopath for an ex??

When we first got together and I actually liked and care for him... I remember telling him on 3 occassions "If you ever hurt me, I will fuck you up." I don't know if he believed that or not... but 2 weeks ago (today actually) he called specifically to ask me if I was sending "people" up to his job to "fight" him! When I asked why, he said because all everything that's happened... I used to get I love you & we have to be together (1 minute) Kiwi I really don't want a relationship- so stop trying to fix this and make this work (another minute) How about when his grandmother died & he called me Narc: "I just heard grandma pass away" Me: Aww babe I'm so so so sorry, I'm here if you need anything... I love you Narc: I love you too, it'll be fine... so whats up? I miss you, I'm seeing you tomorrow right? WOW! Strangers die and I feel for them..!

When he was a kid, he would just play by himself and listen to John Denver alone in his room. He told me that every Saturday when he was in high school a girl would come over, he would fuck her, then go to dinner with his parents. Then out with someone else. I asked him, did she want more,,,,,,and at first it stumped him. Like she did not exist at all. He just used her as an object. I remember when we first met, he not being close to his children.......His brother had committed suicide.....I thought I could love him into more healthy relationships. One summer when his youngest daughter came to visit, 14 years old, he told her in a matter fact way, your Mother cheated on me, that's why the relationship broke up." She being the only stable one in this girls life. He had no regard for her feelings, it was just about him, him, him. Children don't matter, family does not matter, and wives certainly don't matter. To top it all off, he was cheating on that wife the whole time!!!!! When we first met, and I was being idealized, big time, he told me he could be a prick. I should have listened!!!!Cause he really is a prick. The nice guy facade is just that a total facade. About 9 months into the relationship, we had a puppy, and she took off. He raged at that poor dog. Kicked her, beat her. That was the first time I saw him with no mask. It scared me. He would be raging at me soon enough. He has not seen his daughter since, it's been almost two years, no guilt, no remorse, no nothing. It's beyond my comprehension. I remember meeting his older daughter. Idealization state, I could not understand, why she was so angry. I get it now. God thank you for helping me get out of the rabbit hole. Jen

He said "they chose me to beat up our boss because they knew i would do it and not care " .."i booted the dog right in the face " when he was talking about a girl in his class at school he said "i called her names every day , i tormented her every day " when i asked him why he said "because only i knew what she was really like , all the rest thought she was nice but i knew she wasnt" When he attacked me his apology was "look scoop if i really wanted to hurt you i could have " He also said quite a few times that he didnt feel any emotion and that he knew he was mentaly ill ... do ya think freakoid .

Mine said...go on birth control or you're gonna end up with baby. I am stronger than you, and I'll get what I want. Nice guy, eh?

We were at a friend's house for a party. It was the first time he met my best friend and her family. Her sister was a parole officer. He knew this and went up to her, never having met her, and said, "You're a parole officer, right? If I sexually abuse a child in Cook County is it possible that I could get off without jail time?" He said it was "just a joke" and was "testing her" to see if she new her job well.

Your Narc is psycho and SCARY! Who wishes anybody's child to die??? Why in the world would he ask you if your son would walk up to a strangers car?? He needs to be locked up!!! I know yesterday was a hard day for you but try to remember this kind of insanity when you have those days!! He's a very scary Narc! Sara