The Illusion of Managing (Or Controlling) a Pathological Person

Thank you! That's something I like to say when women say, why doesn't he get it? Why doesn't he see? Babe, we are the ones that need to get it. We are the ones who need to see. And I have asked those same questions, btw. I could not figure out HOW he could NOT want what we had... I think for a while HE could not believe that I still thought we really had something and still believed him. You know, once.. he was laughing about his wife, about how he had been talking to me intimately in a locked room... and that she later told the therapist (that I didn't KNOW they were seeing) about how he had really given her some space that night, how he just seemed to sense that she needed some time alone, and he LAUGHED about it, because in actuality he was doing something quite different, with me, online. I also remembered that day and thought he was home alone. I also did not know he was going to MARRIAGE COUNSELING. His excuse for that was that he had to make it look like he tried or some such shit, even tho he was leaving her. Yeah, that sounds a LOT better. Anyway, I was horrified. I, of course, with his training, hated her and thought he'd been victimized by her, but I didn't take any JOY in tricking her. He said he was leaving but he WOULD NOT leave. And never did, doncha know. But anyway, blah blah, I remembered that later when I found out about the OW that knew me, and damn I was pissed OFF thinking about them thinking that they pulled one over on me. Thinking about him LAUGHING about me buying his bullshit, this laugh of disbelief, that he could get away with it. While I was APOLOGIZING to him for not handling our breakup better, blah blah puke puke as I like to say. Oh, I know just how he must have laughed. Dick. Head. But that's okay, I know now, and he's just a duplicitous loser.