How to fight this compelling urge

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#1 Jul 5 - 10PM
BlindNoMore
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How to fight this compelling urge

Hello everyone. It's been a while since I've posted. Mostly been too busy to obsess or dwell on him as much these days. Kids home for summer and projects around the house keeping my mind off the mindfuck that I allowed from the psychopath. Life is going on and although he crosses my mind daily still, it's no longer all consuming like many months ago. I'm healing and grateful. However, I am really struggling with this compelling feeling to look him up online right now. I knew from back when I was still in a relationshit with him that he had an upcoming bodybuilding show he was prepping for and in the back of my mind I kept a mental note of the date and wondered how he would do. I know it's not my business and I should not care. I know this! Why, then, do I keep having to resist the urge to look up the show results? It's like I tell myself "just look it up so you can know and get on with your day", yet I realize it's only ever upset me to look at his website, talk to anyone who knows him, etc. I guess I'm just here venting that I'm thinking about this sorry, sick, disordered, pitiful excuse for a man. Hoping he did bad, yet fearing he got first and thinking how unfair this predator psychopath narc could have good things he wants coming his way when he deliberately uses and lies and hurts people. I don't want anything good for him. I would be happy to hear bad news about him, in fact. Thought I was past this, but apparently I still have some forgiving and letting go to do.

Jul 7 - 10AM
BlindNoMore
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Thank you all for taking the

Jul 6 - 8AM
trying2survive
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I too have been having some

Jul 6 - 7AM
tiredofthisaddiction
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It was great that you came

Jul 6 - 3AM
SunshineandLight
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Hi Blind

Jul 5 - 11PM
Willow
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Hi Blind :) I'm happy to read