Whose underwear are those?
Whose underwear are those?
So, another segment of my story is something it has taken me a long time to come to grips with. Let me start my staying my N got into a weird mindset about sex and was more interested. In being dominated. I didn't like it because he would rage after like he had to be a man again. Since I didn't participate with him cuz I didn't like it I started finding really inappropriate sites on his phone, looking for girls into this online and places to go. At one point I started investigating cuz he would leave for long periods of time and treated me badly. I found a box of girly underwear a closet and some days there would be some missing and then I found pics on his phone of him wearing them. This messed me up bad.... I didn't trust him at all. He was so angry all the time and severely verbally abusive at one point telling me to make my husband happy and get him a whore. Crazy! I was with him for 14 years and started questioning how many lies about where he was when he said he had errands to run. I'm long gone but it really bothers me that I was with someone so twisted and had such violent tendencies. Most of the underwear were mine and he would ask me where this pair was or that pair was and accuse me of cheating. They were in his weird little box in the basement! I think it's the strange things like this that get us stuck, just trying to figure out what is going on. At the end of our relationship he would say things like I want a break, I need space, I want a divorce....wait I love you, don't leave me. He told me on numerous occasions he was cheating and that he even used prepaid cell phones so I'll never know what he is doing. One of our last conversations he asked me why I left..... REALLY"? This was just. Small piece of why I left. It was a roller coaster ride through hell, every weekend was a battle. I would count down to when I could go back to work... Please come soon Monday I remember saying..... Glad to be out just still mind boggled.
Fetches
Yes, Saving, many narcs exhibit
spinning
Underwear fetish?
underwear if only I had KNOWN way back then RED Flags
Talk about gaslighting! He
No they don't believe it
Gaslighting...
An attempt to destroy another's perception of reality
Exactly
"Getting you to think your
Thanks Goldie... your comments show the intent . Movie is worth
My comment was more towards
Omg
amen to getting out!!