What does it all mean?
NC is something done when one realizes they are in a toxic unhealthy R when used for our purposes here.
It is a choice one makes.
ST is designed to get a reaction out of you as Used clearly described to you.
Every time a narcissist does not choose to engage with you, it is not always either or (ST/NC).
Sometimes it's discard. You are not serving a purpose right now for them.
You are a booty call, cash-cow, social status hit, being used for triangulation purposes or any reason they have. They need an ego boost. Status report; to see if you have new supply. The rules you must follow do not apply to them. They are bored. It varies.
If none if those reasons apply today, you will not hear from them.
You are basically on call to be used as needed.
No need for the Narc today with you =
No call.
No text.
No email.
No drop by.
Narc wants something from you =
Call
Text
Drop by
You are complicating this. It truly is this simple.
PD's are not complicated.
They use you and know what they want.
We complicate this by pretending that there is more to the R than there is.
There is not.
Narc uses you and you don't like this.
So you pretend the R is something different or better.
This is what we do.
Wishful, fantasy, magical thinking.
Of course the Narcissist lies.
Their actions do not match their words.
Yet time and time again many choose to believe that which there is no evidence to see.
Change the way you think and the pain will lesson in time.
Together in Recovery~
Goldie
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Silent Treatment
Identify
No contact since noon Friday wi the Cheating Narc
ST/NC/Discard
NC for 13 months
Grrrr...I want his romances to fail
TDbfree
Thanks so much, I just needed
In the middle of another D & D
It is hard
Think about it...
OMG I so relate
Punishment never stops til we do
I agree with this so much
Goldie.. I need help.
I am glad you are meeting with Goldie
Hi Saving
Yes, thank you..
SO TRUE
Essential and good point
Abigail, your post hits home
You are NOT crazy!
Great blog, Goldie!
thank you