Friends of opposite sex
Friends of opposite sex
Here's a recovery question. When I was with the ex, as mentioned he had female friends and I had some male friends too. My men friends are really just friends, but my relationship with the ex was very permissive in that going out to dinner with them or going over to their houses to hang out for an evening was okay.
I know in part it was so the permission would be in reverse, but the ex just never watched much I did in any event--it was part of him being more "advanced" than most people. He wasn't jealous in the traditional sense. In fact, he eroticized jealousy.
So now that I'm in a new relationship, I don't really know how it's supposed to be when it comes to friends of the opposite sex. For those of you who've been in longstanding "normal" relationships, how does that go?
What seemed normal for so many years now doesn't, when I look around at happy, long-term couples. For the most part I didn't care if the ex went out with other women because that's how it was from day one. But if my boyfriend told me he was doing the same, I'd be crushed. I know the reverse would be true too.
This hasn't come up as a problem, my friends are all in my former home state anyway. But at some point I'll go back for a visit and want to handle that respectfully.
Any input or advice?
Just ask him :) "What are
mine didn;t seem to care at
freinds
It's all about boundaries
Susan
He was in an LDR
"Current wife"
wholeagain
Believe in yourself!
Terri