survivor's story
survivor's story
Know him for 20 years, since i am 17 years old. Never got a chance to know any other man.
Then got married at age 25. Very subtle abuse started even before marriaage.I was not sure whether to marry him or not. He told me with his usual extraordinary confidence, ..You would be unhappy in your life without me and you would be unhappy living with me aswell,so why dont you marry me so that atleast I can be happy.....and I fall for that....stupid me!! I have chosen to be unhappy with him, since I was sure that I would be unhappy without him, because he told me so!! Here I am married to him for 13 long unhappy abusive years. Subtle abuse became open and everyday kind of things. Not physical abuse, its all emotional and somewhat sexual.Cant write it all in one post.
Important update now: finally I have the strenght and guts to seek divorce. 18 days of separation, has to wait for him to response. we have a wonderful son togather, now on my custody but he is asking for 50 percent custody. He was abusive to my son aswell. my son does not like him but want to see him time to time as well. My husband is in different city, coming to my city in 2 days and want to take my son for a day outing. I am worried, can he damage my son, twist his mind, can my son fall for his charming manipulation...worried. please advice. I will write more about the relationship soon.
As a Mom I know the pain of
almostlydia