Do we tell the kids about nc and npd
Do we tell the kids about nc and npd
This is a heck of a question. Usual childcare insists children be protected from adult issues and I agree. However many articles I've read say that we should tell children the truth about the disorder.
I also have to question my motives for what I say.
More often than I care to Admit I have spoken to kids about exnh behaviour out of my hurt and betrayal and resentment, this has not been healthy for any of us.
When I am less in my feelings I have sometimes explained that daddy behaves selfishly and nc prevents us fighting about that etc etc
I do talk more openly with my 12 year old daughter who sees exnh more clearly although she is full of cd and love/pain around her dad. My 11 year old son idolises his father and just blames me and sees nc as me being spiteful and horrible to his poor misunderstood father who just wants to be my friend now..,,,barf
I struggle a lot still with cd. When I see him clearly and feel justified in my actions I am ok and can then be ok for my kids.
After insisting on contact exnh had children for weekend. He then left them alone fir over 3 hours in a park with no coat whilst he claims to have gone to the gym. The children are begging me not to tell anyone and get him In Trouble or stop them seeing him....,,once more I will be the bad guy.
But I am ok.
Its hard, you have to protect
to Lilymarch
I tell the truth.
yes Jelickuk