Wow...lots of new girls!

Thank you for coming back and posting for us newbies! I need to hear this kind of stuff because right now I feel like it may never end. I'm always thrilled to hear the happy endings! Thank you again! Sara

Could not agree more. I have been on this forum for 45 weeks and yep, I could not have done it without the people here. We are/were all in the same boat at some point. I, too, have seen the light. I have no problem being on my own. It is very refreshing actually. I can live my own life. I do not have to answer to anyone anymore. I do not have to bend over backwards (in more ways that you can imagine ;) ) to please anyone anymore. I can do what I want, when I want with whomever I choose to do it with. Don't have to worry that if I am at the store for 10 minutes instead of 5 I will NOT get lectured or accused of cheating. Such an awesome feeling. And to all the new posters, YOU WILL GET THERE TOO !! You gotta go thru some bullshit to get there, but when you do, you will finally have YOU back. Lots of tears, fears and anger later, but you will get there. And you will realize that your prince charming was just a made up person. Someone who is not/was not worthy of you in the first place. And when it is all said and done--we will walk away the winners, we will be the happy ones and them, well.......no such luck. Hang in there gals !! Your day will come. You again will be able to look at life and thank God for the things you have. And thank God that you were strong enough to get out--whether you were the one to leave or you were left, it really does not matter. Important thing is is that you are free. Free to be treated like a real human being again. Free to be respected and appreciated. Love and hugs to you all !!

SweetSamm - So great to hear from you and thrilled to hear how well you're doing! What wonderful news. Thank you for sharing with all of us here. We need members to come back and tell us life after the narcissist does get better! I love this: "Making it thru this is just a test..and when you pass, you are a new and improved version of your former self." I couldn't agree with you more! I've been spending this past week finalizing the second book "The Six Steps to Surviving a Narcissist" and am excited to share it with everyone here in the next few weeks! It is my sincere hope that my book will help you understand what you experienced, process your pain, and heal. Nothing in the book is rocket science and some of it may even feel like common sense. However, it is important to me to provide all of you with a path to recovery. Based on my personal journey, "The Six Steps" are what worked for me. I look forward to sharing it with you and am hopeful that it will help you navigate your path to recovery so you can find yourself again. It is the Narcissist who is preventing you from being truly happy. It is so important you understand this. NOTHING stands between you and a relationship with yourself but your Narcissist! We spend way too much time trying to form and nurture relationships with others who could potentially be our soul mate, when the whole time we neglect to nurture and get to know ourselves! You are finally living in the light and moving away from the darkness. It is time to connect with yourself again! Being in touch with yourself and your true emotions is truly a gift that we all must cherish and embrace. As Sinead O'Connor says in one of my favorite songs "Feel So Different" The whole time I'd never seen All you had spread before me The whole time I'd never seen That all I'd need was inside me Now I feel so different I feel so different I feel so different

is so sweet and uplifting! Great work on your part and thank you so much for this post. I'm still here, too, but like SOI am moving toward the light. I can't wait to get there either. Thank you for this post. It is very encouraging. (and love your last remark!!!!) In sincere gratitude, (slowing down a bit from) spinning

Hey sweetsam as you can I'm still here lol! But doing better. Glad you are out of the darkness and in the light. I can't wait to get there too. I am very close though :)

How are you? I am sorry to say, I don't remember conversing with you much on here, but I think you were on the board when I joined...I was a wreck back then and it was all a very big painful blur! AND I won't deny...you very well may have been there saying: "Michele! Snap Outta It!!!" but I really was experiencing a very bad case of PTSD...in fact, for the month of September, I literally COULD NOT SPEAK!!! AT ALL...could not say the word TIDE without breaking down it was THAT severe. Could not leave my house, could not function...it was a culmination of things the Narc triggered and so I had everthing hit me at once...I spent 30 days locked up in my room because logistically I could not check into a hospital as there was no one to care for my son and I was not going to let him enter the "system" so I hung on for dear life...and this board did save me...luckily I could type...LOL but I am not over embellishing I am being quite literal. More importantly because that's PAST now, I want to say how happy I am that you are now on the other side feeling a ton better...that's a great thing I'm pretty much there myself...a little residue but just giving time time. I especially want to thank you for peeking in and giving those of us here still struggling very hard, still hurting, still trying to heal...hope. It really means a lot because it reinforces the fact that while painful...we will get past it... I clearly remember being curled up in a ball thinking it would NEVER end...and that is why it's important for people who have recovered to at least chime in every so often...because it helps those currently going through the process see that others have also survived the struggle. I hope you will visit more often...now that you've healed it is alway helpful when "vets" can make appearances and give that extra encouragement because like you and I know...it ain't easy at all...probably one of the most challenging things to survive... AND so few in the outside world who haven't gone through it understand. I wish you continued progress in your recovery and re-discovery and every well wish for peace, love and light! Hugs!