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#1 Dec 30 - 10PM
blueworld
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WOW

wow so i was in the shower and a thought popped in that i wanted to share with all of you

so here is what alot of us are stuck doing trying to figure out what happen and how it could happen

meaning, why did he do this to me, how could he do this to me, and Was it me?

i realized the answer is right in front of us the truth is right in front of us

facts are facts
what we experienced was what we experienced
what we felt what we heard what we saw WE SAW

another words, some of us are still trying to break apart each scene and event and repeat it and replay it to make more sense of it , but the truth is the truth

we were conned
we were lied to in our eyes to our faces
we were hearing the name calling
the threats and the undertone acusations
all that we lived and experienced we lived and experienced

we need to stop the painful process of trying to find a explanation and stop blaming ourselves for the events

we dont not make them cheat on us
we did not make them lie to us
cut us down make us afraid hurt unworthy

STOP!!!!!!!!!

the blame is a hundred percent on them
all of it

WE ARE LOVING CARING AND FELL FOR THE WRONG MAN! OR WOMAN!

i love you all i hope this helps

(((((((((((((Blueworld))))))))))))))

Dec 30 - 10PM
janemarie
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blueworld

Very nice...I like it!! Im exhausted trying to make sense of it!! I just found out tonite that he used to cheat on his exwife...He always told me how faithful he was and I believed it...He claimed She cheated...when in fact they did it to each other....ugh!!! More validation for me...but more shit to get my head all crazy!!! As you said...it is what it is...what happened is what happened and no matter how much I replay it...it stays the same and brings me to this exact place where I am right now!!! It's nice to see your strength again!! xoxo
Dec 30 - 10PM (Reply to #2)
blueworld
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jane

need to look at it like i have come to look at it if we were listening to a very dear friend that we loved and cared for so much going through what we are going through what advice would we tell her and how would we want to help her and protect her and heal her and give her everything she has waiting for her once she gets away from the abuse and finds herself? what a wonderful thought that WE HOLD THE POWER
Dec 31 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
Redhead1
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Take verbal communication and

Take verbal communication and your emotions out of the picture. Look at just his actions toward you. That's who he is. He can say shit all day long and stir up your emotions and he loves doing this. It gets him his way. His actions tell the true story. This is a lesson I am applying to all relationships in my life. Friends, parents, everyone. People show you who they really are. Most people that have to tell you who they are, they are full of shit. I figure they are just trying to convince themselves.