Working with my Narc is driving me insane!

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#1 Feb 15 - 2PM

sara-smile

Working with my Narc is driving me insane!

Oh my Lord what an awful day! After surviving the weekend and stupid Valentine’s Day I got thrown together with NARC BOY for work purposes first thing this morning!! The worst part is we got put in a room together ALONE for 30 minutes!!! ARRRGGHH!!!!! I just can’t win at this!

The only good part about what happened was I had to reprimand him about something that he had done this morning. Haaaaaaaaaaaa! That was amusing.

He spent the entire 30 minutes running his mouth, apologizing and telling me how big of an idiot he is and how bad he screwed up! WTH? I ignored him and changed the subject back to work until I just snapped because I couldn’t take the torture anymore! What is wrong with these people? Last week he made feel like a 2 dollar whore and today I’m his life and the best thing that ever happened to him? There has got to be some medication for this insanity! He told me everything was his fault and he was an idiot! I told him to STOP IT and I didn’t want to hear anymore of his lies! He swore up and down it wasn’t lies and it took losing me to realize how stupid he was. OMG! I told him to just shut the hell up that nothing he said mattered and it was irrelevant and he was irrelevant to me.

The scary part is while he’s standing there pleading his case with tears in his eyes part of my heart responded! I didn’t give in but if I had been stuck with him for 10 more minutes I’m afraid he would have gotten to me AGAIN! WTH is wrong with me? How much abuse does it take to snap the hell out of it! How much more can he hurt me into my heart shuts down completely? I told him I had work to do and I walked out of the room. He called and asked if we could talk later and I said ABOUT WHAT? We have nothing to talk about! Then I hung up. He called again and I didn’t answer and so far he’s let it go.

The good part is I’m not upset. I didn’t cry and fall apart. I think I was so shocked that I couldn’t think straight most of the time.

Why won’t he just go away? I’m looking for a new job! I can’t work with him. I found out this morning I have an interview FRIDAY (woo hoo) with the company I work for but at a different location closer to home! That would be an answer to my prayers!!!!

Thanks for listening again. I don’t know what I’d do without all of you!

#2 Feb 18 - 5PM

whskywmn5

Hi Sara

Thanks for suggesting this site, i shouldnt really say that I am enjoying what im reading here, but I have gotten quite a few laughs from the post. I have missed you my friend, the other site just isnt the same without your posts. I cant believe the company would have the nerve to place you both in a room together especially after you talking to your supervisor and explaining the situation to them. That couldnt have been easy to do, and I commend you for getting thru it in one piece. You sound so much better here in this forum than when we first met, you seem to be coming into your own and finding yourself. I hope you get the new job, and can put more distance between you and your N.

#3 Feb 18 - 6PM (Reply to #23)

sara-smile

Hey whskywmn!!

I'm so happy to see you!!!!!! I've missed talking to you too and I was wondering if you got my email and try this site out. You are gonna love it! These ladies are the best! They give me advice, kick my ass when I need it, make me laugh when I don't feel like laughing and try to keep me on the path back to my sanity! The other site where we met started making me nervous because that weirdo guy kept posting stuff. Narcs are crazy and I don't like worrying about being hoovered while I am in a safe place trying to get myself better. I do feel better than when we first met. I've made some major mistakes but I keep picking myself up and trying again. How's your situation? Any different? Better I hope! So good to hear from you again. I hope this place helps you as much as it's helped me!! Hugs!! Sara

#4 Feb 18 - 9PM (Reply to #24)

whskywmn5

I can defintely tell that you

I can defintely tell that you are in a better place as far as your confidence in yourself. I will admit does bother me also that they dont screen better what is allowed to be posted on the other site. I can see from reading the posts here, that yes these women do give good advice, and make you laugh and in our situations that is very helpful. Hugs, Maggie

#5 Feb 16 - 7AM

sadderbutwiser

i almost peed my pants!

OMG, sick of its comments made me laugh so hard!! what a loser he is, and i thought MINE was pathetic! it must be so hard to work with him. mine lives 3 houses away and i thought i had it bad. YIKES!! i love how you stood up to him. just try to remember: DO NOT show him ANY emotion. they love that, whether it is good or bad. the last time i spoke to mine, i was so calm and indifferent, and i know it drove him crazy. THAT is how we truly get back at them. you should be so proud of yourself for how strong you were so soon after what happened last week. GOOD FOR YOU!!!

#6 Feb 15 - 4PM

Journey

Glad there is laughter!

Some of the comments below are really quite funny and I'm so glad you can laugh about him today. I wish you the very best interview ever! Journey on...

Journey on...

#7 Feb 15 - 3PM

exhausted

So Proud of You!!!!!!

Sara You did great today!!! Your story today just made my day! I am so happy that you are seeing what a creep he is and you are strong enough to stay out of his drama. See what a couple of days of NC can do. This is so amazing! Thats great about the interview too. I hope you get it!! I am in the same place you are too. My narc just walked into my office and asked me a really dumb work related question. I didnt even look up from my desk but I answered it calmly and in as little words as I could. I just don't think I care anymore. I cant fix him and I don't want to. He doesnt deserve to be fixed. Your strength today really put me in a better mood. I'm sooooooo happy for you!

#8 Feb 15 - 3PM (Reply to #17)

exhausted

UPDATE: He just came in and

UPDATE: He just came in and asked me if I'm ever going to talk to him again. I completely ignored him and continued to do my work. How weird that our stories are so similar and this would happen to both of us on the same day. We both did good today

#9 Feb 15 - 4PM (Reply to #19)

sara-smile

exhausted

YOU GO GIRL!!!!! We did good! I think our Narcs are long lost brothers! Seriously. OR maybe they know each other and they call each other during the day and say "ooooo let's try this on them today" Dumbasses! I'm very proud of you and me!

#10 Feb 15 - 4PM (Reply to #18)

Hunter

Ex

Excellent! You do good work! Rock on Idealk

#11 Feb 15 - 2PM

nancyh

Sara-Smile

Congratulations & good luck on the job interview Friday (you will dazzle them)! As far as Narc Boy's hoovering attempts - only you can control how many times you want to go back and place yourself in a situation to receive the inevitable pain and anguish you will suffer because of your interactions w/Narc Boy. Stop the insanity, get off the ride & if you HAVE to interface with him - keep it strictly about work!

Nan

#12 Feb 15 - 2PM

gettinbetter

Oh Good Lord!

I thought he was in love with new girl????? So in 4 days time he fell out of love with her and back in love with you? Did you draw his attention to how absolutely absurd this is? One of two things happened here: He either didn't live up to expectations on v day Or They had a really great night and now he is backing away because she is getting to close for comfort. Narcs are notrious for d and d ing after some time of closness Either way doesn't matter. He is a freak. Who falls in andc out of love in four days. He must think you are an idiot he's not even good at being a narc. Mine would wait some time before he tried that little stunt in an effort to make it look like he had taken time to think about it. So you are seeing the absurdity of the behavior. What he wants is a love triangle at work they love triangulation. He's afraid you are exiting from the triangle and he's right

#13 Feb 15 - 5PM (Reply to #14)

Susan32

Those not good at being Narcs

Same here. The ex-Psych professor put NO thought in his triangulation with me and his live-in girlfriend. The moment she&I struck up a nice conversation... he made a swift exit. A SMARTER Narc would've ushered her away from me, dismissed me as the "crazy gal", and nicely introduced her to his colleagues. He didn't even introduce her to his colleagues. He simply ran away. When I praised his girlfriend the next day, all I got was a *stunned* look, and he didn't know how to act. All I got was the whiny "you put me in an awkward position" and "It shouldn't matter to you that I already have a girlfriend." He wanted me to believe that he had accidentally happened upon her in town&she was suddenly moving in with him... when she was the Significant Omission about his Thanksgiving trip to LA the year before. I have some respect for Narcs who accomplish things. Leo Tolstoy, Total Narc... wrote great short stories&novels. Pablo Picasso, great painter, total Narc. There are singers&actors who are full of themselves... but they actually DO things. They've put SOME effort into something. The ex-P once said he wasn't that smart. He got that one right.

#14 Feb 15 - 3PM (Reply to #9)

gettinbetter

I picture this fool sitting

I picture this fool sitting at his desk saying "I love sara I love her not. I lover new gf I love her not when the hell does he get his work done. Seems like he spends all day figuring out who he loves and how he is gonna get laid. He's about the goofiest narc I have ever seen. What a freakin retard

#15 Feb 15 - 4PM (Reply to #11)

sara-smile

sick of it

I haven't laughed this hard in a very very long time! That is hilarious!!!!!!! Thank you so much for making me laugh today. He is the goofiest narc and retard I've ever met in my life! The next time I see him this is what will go through my head and I'm sure I will laugh in his face! HA!!!!

#16 Feb 15 - 5PM (Reply to #12)

gettinbetter

I would love to see what

I would love to see what this dude looks like cause I have a mental image one thing I like about the other site cause you can private message He's such a goofy retard I don't even think the narcs would claim him as one of their own

#17 Feb 16 - 8AM (Reply to #13)

sara-smile

sick of it

That is hilarious! What I would give to tell him that he such a goofy retarded Narc that even his own kind wouldn't claim him! Haaaaaaaaaaaaa!! That is priceless! He pulled more goofy retarded crap this morning! I'll have to post about it later.

#18 Feb 15 - 3PM (Reply to #10)

exhausted

HAHAHA! This is what I

HAHAHA! This is what I picture my narc doing all day as well. Another funny thing is other people in the office are starting to wonder what he does all day.

#19 Feb 15 - 2PM (Reply to #7)

sara-smile

sick of it

That is the funniest thing I've read all day! I bet the person in the next office thinks I've finally flipped my lid because I'm sitting here laughing out loud alone! "He's not even good at being a narc"! Heeeeee haaaaaaaaaaa!! I LOVE IT! Yes I see the complete abusurdity in his behavior. He's an IDIOT! I did point out to him that he's deranged. I told him you can't love her Thursday and then me today. His answer for that was it took me walking away from him (complete NC) for him to realize it! Blah blah blah! Geez! I'm so sick of hearing it!

#20 Feb 15 - 3PM (Reply to #8)

gettinbetter

sorry

Double post

#21 Feb 15 - 2PM (Reply to #6)

Hunter

SOI

" He's not even good at being a narc " hahaha! Hope you are feeling better! Idealk

#22 Feb 15 - 2PM

Hunter

Sara

You just learned another Narc lesson! He " loves you" I want to puke! He's a complete idiot at least he got that right! You did good! Be strong and stay away as much as possible! Idealk

#23 Feb 15 - 2PM (Reply to #2)

sara-smile

idealk

He loves me and her and probably 10 others I don't know about. I wish I could ask him what HE thinks the definition of love is! Moron! Idiot! He's not even good at being a Narc! LOL LOL!

#24 Feb 15 - 3PM (Reply to #3)

Hunter

Sara

Once you feel Better it's kind of fun making fun of them! You will get to the " what was I thinking " stage then you will be laughing like you used to! Rock on!

#25 Feb 16 - 9AM (Reply to #4)

Gina

Sara and Exhausted

So happy for you both! Progress!!! Keep up the good work. Gina

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