wondering about NC

Some narcs seem to move on more quietly than others when NC is enforced. With xnh, he took my going NC as a challenge, and he stepped up his attempts to force contact with me (particularly at first). He was quite "creative" about it. lol. I've been NC for 10 months now. I've filed three harassment complaints against him at work, and moved my office (he still works at the same company as I do, and he was located in the office right next door to mine). I've had him follow me into stores, and he has randomly called or showed up at my house. In addition, we had a mutual friend that xnh was using for many months to get information about me from, and the friend was continually giving me (very) unwanted "newsflashes" about xnh and his hideous P daughter. I'm now mostly NC with the mutual friend as well. Xnh seems to be FINALLY slowing down his hoover attempts. I guess I'm just not worth his effort (hopefully). YES!!! rofl. I see NC like a water dike, and I am the one that must enforce/maintain it. My goal is to be away from any contact with the water (xnh) on the other side of the dike (NC). I wish to heal and move on with my life on dry earth, and in the sunshine. NC is my barrier. I built it. I'm maintaining it. However xnh doesn't want to lose his control of me. He still wants me all wet and drowning under the dark surface of his narcness. Therefore, he just keeps putting holes into my dike wherever he can find a way. I keep plugging the holes with concrete. Eventually my dike will be completely made of concrete, and the water (xnh) will not be able to get through my dike in any way. My dike must be getting fairly strong lately, because xnh seems to be slowing down his attempts. He has, however, tried to put LOTS of holes into my NC during the past 10 months. He is very stubborn. lol. I'm sure that he will occasionally come back when his NS is running low, and he will randomly make attempts at punching a new hole into my dike. When he does, I will plug it. Soon after he D&D'd, xnh showed up on my property. I warned him that I was calling the police. He called randomly. I got "call rejection" put onto my phone. He started going to car dealers and expensive resorts with OW, and didn't want give these people his phone number, so xnh gave them MY private unlisted number instead. I changed my phone number to an unlisted one that he does not know. He sent me 51 nasty, whining emails using company email. I reported him to management, and now send any messages from xnh automatically (unread) into a folder called "Divorce" for future use when I report him (again). He started emailing at my home email. I closed the account and now use one he does not know. He called my cell phone. I changed to another number. He saw my car in a store parking lot, parked right next to mine, and came into the store looking for me. Fortunately for me, I saw him well ahead, dodged down another aisle, paid for my stuff, and left while he was still in the store. I hope his truck was really "lonely" all by itself without my car next to it whenever he came out. lol. Xnh's list of attempts to break my NC is pretty much endless. Since I went NC, xnh has been "determined" to break it. Not going to happen, if I can help it. Xnh may be stubborn. However, I intend to be more so. I do not respond to xnh directly in any way. I just quietly plug the latest hole he's tried to make in my dike. To me, he is dead. He does NOT exist. I'm enforcing NC. My life is SO much better now without xnh in it. My advice to you, is to follow your gut about what you think your xn may do. If you're concerned about his violent past, do whatever it takes to protect yourself. Get a restraining order, change the locks on your house, get a gun, whatever it takes. Let your friends and family know that you're worried about him surfacing. It's always much better to be safe than sorry. Keep yourself safe, and maintain your NC. He's a narc. Eventually he will find another source of NS that is easier to suck off of than you. They tend to move onto the "path of least resistance" went it comes to getting NS. For yourself, your recovery, and your happiness in the future, NC is SO worth the effort. :) Hugs.