Woke Up In Tears
Woke Up In Tears
Have you ever just woke up in tears over your ex- N after NC. That happened to me this morning. I woke up as if he was present somehow to me. I felt like I could feel his presence. I wept realizing that I was having these feelings. I cried thinking I will never see him again.
I have to let go of him.
I can't let myself believe he meant a word of what he said to me. Why did he hurt me, abandon me? I read about Cognitive Dissonance this morning. I can see I have been suffering in my own Cognitive D.
I realize that it can never make any sense. But I wish it did. The only thing that does make sense to me is that he is a Narcissist. And that he played with me..... and PLAYED me. I lost him as a friend now because of his need to exploit me. We had been friends since we were 14 years old. I am in many ways maddest at him for ruining our friendship.
Well, that's just a piece of the ruins that he created and I am left with. Waking up in tears and feeling this deep pain made me wonder how am I really going to get over losing him? When will I wake up in tears again? This experience made me feel so out of control this morning. Because I didn't ask for it or bring it on by thinking or remembering...it was involuntary. LOL....I guess as it just now came to me ....all of this was INVOLUNTARY....I didn't ask for him to F-ck up my life...I didn't ask him to come back into my life, I didn't ask him to proclaim that he had romantic feelings for me, I didn't ask him to travel great distances to come see me, I didn't ask him to romantically seduce me with promises of our future together....I DIDN'T ASK FOR ANY OF IT???? That's what is so truly baffling to me.... about all of it when I look back?
The strategy that he used to involve me was masterful. He had lot's of practice I am sure...I just didn't realize it. I thought it was unique and special from him to me....
It's left me in a funk today. I am trying keep active and put it behind me. I leave on vacation tomorrow. I hope to relax and see a new world without him being any part of it. I wish for this gray cloud to give way to the sunshine soon. I can talk the talk of what I read or think but the reality of how my spirit is still crushed and damaged was evident to me with this mornings involuntary tears.
*As I experience these things my heart goes out to all of you who suffer the same or worse. I feel sad and numb today...... BeachD
Beach
Hi beach...so nice to meet
I have been exactly where you are many times
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Thanks for posting
i really feel your pain
Beautiful Beach Dreamer,
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