Will I ever be good enough
Will I ever be good enough
That is the title of a book by Dr. Karyl McBride
A review:
"Growing up with a narcissistic mother makes women high-achievers or self-sabotagers, though McBride points out that all such daughters sabotage themselves. The motivations of these two types are not mutually exclusive but stem from a common denominator: “Both have internalized the message that they are valued for what they do, rather than for who they are.” In this way, learned responses, such as dependent and codependent behaviors, can swap places or act in combination with each other.
This flexibility forms an important backbone to the book. McBride illustrates the many ways in which damage from maternal narcissism can manifest and can change to fit different circumstances. She makes sense of behaviors that often seem crazy-making and contradictory, tracing them to a daughter’s underlying belief system that love means “pleasing another with no return for herself.”
The parental hierarchy and boundaries one finds in a healthy family are missing in a family where everyone revolves around a narcissistic mother. Furthermore, that dynamic is kept secret because how something looks is treated as more important than how it feels. Daughters raised in an environment lacking unconditional love, empathy, and security seek to fill that void however they can.
Hermes & Layla -
Thank you, brinamarie!
Layla and everyone
I need to read this book
Other stuff on same topic
Thanks for the link
How did we miss this?
Your mom sounds very N-like
OMG - I would never have thought
If you were subject
This is me all the way. Also,
Wow, this sounds like ME!!!