This will happen if I break NC....: PLEASE ADD TO THIS LIST. It is for all of us

you dont need to ask us to be patient with you, that will come naturally from all of us because we all have suffered and been thru every stage of this and know what its like - I have been recovering for months and months now and I still at times want to call him its normal - it was that mind control as barbara tells us over and over and that mr nice pretend loving, warm guy. Give yourself a big pat on the back for reaching out and doing the best thing you can do for yourself, RUN

i enjoyed the cartoon and devious thoughts of the n's, so common arent they? Have you ever heard the song, "LONESOME LOSER" by Little River Band? Here are the lyrics, Have you heard about the lonesome loser Beaten by the queen of hearts every time Have you heard about the lonesome loser He's a loser, but he still keeps on tryin' Sit down, take a look at yourself Don't you want to be somebody Someday somebody's gonna see inside You have to face up, you can't run and hide Have you heard about the lonesome loser Beaten by the queen of hearts every time Have you heard about the lonesome loser He's a loser, but he still keeps on tryin' Unlucky in love Least that's what they say He lost his head And he gambled his heart away He still keeps searching Though there's nothing left Staked his heart and lost Now he has to pay the cost Have you heard about the lonesome loser Beaten by the queen of hearts every time Have you heard about the lonesome loser He's a loser, but he still keeps on tryin' "It's okay", he smiles and says Though this loneliness is driving him crazy He don't show what goes on in his head But if you watch very close you'll see it all Sit down, take a look at yourself Don't you want to be somebody Someday somebody's gonna see inside You have to face up, you can't run and hide Have you heard about the lonesome loser Beaten by the queen of hearts every time Have you heard about the lonesome loser He's a loser, but he still keeps on tryin' I attended them in concert this weekend and the song reminded me of someone, how about you? "and they still keep on tryin'" dont they? They are nothing but lonesome losers and I think that is why they try so hard to project the opposite of what they are inside. During NC james maybe thats a good time for us to truly see we are just the opposite of them rather than dwelling on the withdraw from the dream man or woman I should say DREAM PERSON, we need to focus more on the fact we are not really lonesome and we certainly arent losers. They seek their supply because they are so lonely and cant find anything that will fill their void, we are on the otherhand so strong that not only do we recover from this we are content in our own skins and have no need to suck supply from others in a constant honeymoon state. I try daily to find ways to make NC comfortable in my mind it doesnt have to be painful, but more of a realization that we are simply saying goodbye to a very disordered individual that we fell victim to. The GAMES they play when he doesnt hear from me he calls, then when they still dont hear from you they back off and ignore you as well, thinking i am just trying to manipulate him with my silence, there is no manipulating I simply disengaged from their game, let them play with someone else. My life is not a GAME, I dont conduct my interactions with others to see who is going to WIN like a small child who is a bad loser in a card game. NO CONTACT is much like folding in your cards you were dealt, I pass, I am not going to raise the annie, or even match your bet I simply will put my cards down and walk away, in the end they will never know if we had the winning hand, let em always wonder as we walk away in silence. That will eat at them til their dying day, they HATE to lose. My counselor always told me, "you want revenge, you want to hurt him like he hurt you, the only chance you have at doing that is folding in the cards and walking away, COMPLETELY severing and disengaging in their game, their time is due for the grave injustice he did to you. If that is the end result I will gladly go NC, we then heal and they experience injury in their games they play in life when they no longer can control. Remember those primitive emotions they have, Fear, anger, rage? those are the only emotions we will stir in them when we go NC, they dont miss us, they never loved us, they dont feel bad for what they did to us. As in your case when a mother who can turn her back on her own child, flesh and blood imagine inside what a monster she is, I have more respect for animals that show motherly bonding and instincts. You saved your sons life and what a great father you are to him!!!!!

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