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#1 Sep 16 - 6PM
Alive
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WHY?

this is the 2nd time i have posted thisLOL
text from him
'we really need some calendar format for when i'm having ****** and when im not, knowing a day before 'wether' im having her or not is not good enough. i need an itinery from month to month please'
F*** OFF. you could not be bothered about her before, you drop her off at the parents (i prefer by the way). Notice its all about him and his needs not about the kids.
I would love to telephone him now and let it rip, but then somthing inside says NO dont do it. you are giving him attention and your arguement will not be counted he could not give a shit.... this is from someone that called me up in the summer hols 3 days previous to have his kid on 5 days hols. AAARRRGGHHH

Sep 16 - 9PM
michele115 (not verified)
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Give it back...

I have no problem working out a mutually agreeable itinery. Whenever you are ready, forward your proposal, I will review it and let you know of any conflicting dates. Now the RESPONSIBILITY is on him!...HA! Backatcha Narc!
Sep 19 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Alive
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michele

Is this what we call mirroring them? I have read on another post that when we mirror them they don't like it. N could not make decisions, it made him so confused. I feel that by mirroring them it makes them look at their self and they dont like what they see? is this right? I will try and read more on mirroring...:)
Sep 17 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
Alive
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thankyou michele

Love this, of course i was up most the evening trying to respond to it (on paper).!!! My response was similar to yours but you have put it better then i. Send me your 'itinery' Where the hell did he get that word?? and i will get back to you. :) throw it straight back. I know he will change his 'itinery' when the supply comes back so whats the point? idiot...
Sep 16 - 6PM
Alive
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NS AWAY

and i know for a fact his supply is away at the moment, i knew this was coming... but you know, why do they have to use the kid? he knows that im strong now is his last resort my little ***? if it is then i will really go mad.
Sep 17 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
almostlydia
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michele is right exactly and

michele is right exactly and because they will use ANYTHING that might work. Have you seen the post on faking cancer, etc... nothing is beyond being used to get the desired response. Unfortunately that includes the children. That is why you MUST get smart about dealing with the exN and the children. There is a lot of support and wise info here in that regard. I am fortunate that my children are not his, altho it never stopped him from trying to use them to get to me. almostlydia

almostlydia

Sep 17 - 2AM (Reply to #3)
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almostlydia

Yes use anything.. i will re- read that post you mentioned. I am not responding to his request straight away as his needs are not my priority :) He threw the contact order at me a couple of months ago. This is a long story and i will try and write 'my story' soon. Threatning behaviour because i politely reminded him that he had only 'seen' our kid for a couple of hours in three weeks. I should of kept my mouth shut because really the less he sees of her the better!!. I am still in NC and it feels great. It does not matter what dates and times i give to him he is NEVER happy with it. This is all for him and his needs. The kid is needed at the moment because he needs SUPPLY. Will i hope he is wallowing in his full size mirror, find another supply Narc!!! :)