Whose underwear are those?

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#1 Jan 12 - 12AM
nolookingback
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Whose underwear are those?

So, another segment of my story is something it has taken me a long time to come to grips with. Let me start my staying my N got into a weird mindset about sex and was more interested. In being dominated. I didn't like it because he would rage after like he had to be a man again. Since I didn't participate with him cuz I didn't like it I started finding really inappropriate sites on his phone, looking for girls into this online and places to go. At one point I started investigating cuz he would leave for long periods of time and treated me badly. I found a box of girly underwear a closet and some days there would be some missing and then I found pics on his phone of him wearing them. This messed me up bad.... I didn't trust him at all. He was so angry all the time and severely verbally abusive at one point telling me to make my husband happy and get him a whore. Crazy! I was with him for 14 years and started questioning how many lies about where he was when he said he had errands to run. I'm long gone but it really bothers me that I was with someone so twisted and had such violent tendencies. Most of the underwear were mine and he would ask me where this pair was or that pair was and accuse me of cheating. They were in his weird little box in the basement! I think it's the strange things like this that get us stuck, just trying to figure out what is going on. At the end of our relationship he would say things like I want a break, I need space, I want a divorce....wait I love you, don't leave me. He told me on numerous occasions he was cheating and that he even used prepaid cell phones so I'll never know what he is doing. One of our last conversations he asked me why I left..... REALLY"? This was just. Small piece of why I left. It was a roller coaster ride through hell, every weekend was a battle. I would count down to when I could go back to work... Please come soon Monday I remember saying..... Glad to be out just still mind boggled.

Jan 15 - 11AM
SavingMyself
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Fetches

Jan 15 - 11AM (Reply to #14)
spinning
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Yes, Saving, many narcs exhibit

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Jan 12 - 4PM
Gettinghappy
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Underwear fetish?

Jan 12 - 9AM
TruthbeginsToday
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underwear if only I had KNOWN way back then RED Flags

Jan 12 - 5AM
Lorelie123
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Talk about gaslighting! He

Jan 12 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
Goldie
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No they don't believe it

Jan 12 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
MaryLee
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Gaslighting...

Jan 12 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Goldie
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An attempt to destroy another's perception of reality

Jan 14 - 9PM (Reply to #9)
nolookingback
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Exactly

Jan 12 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
yana
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"Getting you to think your

Jan 12 - 12PM (Reply to #5)
TruthbeginsToday
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Thanks Goldie... your comments show the intent . Movie is worth

Jan 12 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Goldie
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My comment was more towards

Jan 12 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
TDbfree
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Omg

Jan 12 - 12AM
boomer14
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amen to getting out!!