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#1 Apr 23 - 11AM
Scoop
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Where is he !

We have had the most amazing weather here in the UK and it has really made me pissed off , i see happy couples walking around being in love and i cant find any man that intreasts me one bit .
Im pissed off because i have a horrible feeling that the love i felt for the narc was a one off and i will never feel for anyone as i did the stupid fucked up horrible piece of shit narc .
AAAGGGGGGGGGG!
Im nearly 40 and i have been looking for "him" all my bleeding life !Where is he !!!

Apr 23 - 3PM
Happy1
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I hear ya! I will be 40 in

I hear ya! I will be 40 in November. I'm just in a place right now that I only see pain and lies with men. I've invested too much of me and my time before that I now feel selfish and don't think any guy is worth my time or energy. He is not going to make me happy. I'm making me happy now. Big hugs to you today!
Apr 23 - 3PM
fooled no longer
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stop looking and he will show

stop looking and he will show up believe me. As someone once told me, what you persue will evade you. Get in touch with yourself and one day when you are happy and whole giving to others and forgetting your own problems, he will show up beside you. Believe that! Looks are nothing soul is everything. Have faith. x A
Apr 23 - 1PM
indenial
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i feel like that too

I'm feeling so weak tonight. I was so strong with nc and he's hoovered badly and I'm breaking down
Apr 23 - 1PM
Hunter
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Scoop

Read my post Good Guy, We don't like the good guy. This all comes up because you ran into that asshole the other day. Mine got me too. Slowly Im getting better. You're are a beautiful woman and you should have that perfect man. If you never find him I think that's ok. You should NEVER settle. Im 44 and I've learned my girlfriends bring me great joy. I miss what I had last summer with my Narc more than you know, I have learned it was fake. I /we ignored many Red Flags so moving forward we know what to look for.
Apr 23 - 12PM
Alisa
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Feeling the exact same way.

Feeling the exact same way. Plus I feel I am to blame for the end of the one normal relationship that I had with a really nice guy many years ago. had nothing to do with the narc. Although...honestly, I never felt the narc was perfect. There were a lot of things I liked when he was his charming self but also quite a few I never liked. What worries me more is that I don't meet any guys at all... haven't tried dating sites yet and am hesitant to do so because of the high rate of narcs there :(
Apr 23 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
SoaperGirl
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Let Caution be Your Guide

I've come across several guys on the websites that interested me. Few have responded. The way I look at it, fooling with the dating websites is getting my feet wet in the dating scene. I'm not looking for anything serious or permanent at this time. While I've recovered much of my former emotional strength and well-being, I haven't completely got the narc out of my system yet, so I don't think quite ready for any new relationships currently. It's just a way to break the ice. I will say that I set boundaries now, rules on what's acceptable or not with me. I listen to my gut. If something doesn't feel quite right, I put an end to things quickly. I'll block guys, let them no, I don't want to proceed further. Refuse to waste my time further if my instincts are clanging like alarm bells. I listen now! I let caution be my guide. In terms of meeting new men I might want to get serious with, I'm thinking of joining local clubs for older adults - the kind where you can spend an afternoon/evening dancing, socializing, even taking some day trips and cruises. I'm looking on this as way to gain dating experience in safe surroundings where there are people who can and will watch out for me and my safety. I'm tiring of staying home never doing anything - so you have to start somewhere. Just let caution be your guide.
Apr 23 - 12PM
dudette
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not with me either...

Sorry..... I am not sure that HE exists actually...
Apr 23 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Scoop
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Pants ...:)

Pants ...:)